(Closed) CFBC Bees Introduce Yourself

posted 6 years ago in No Kids
Post # 76
Member
31 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2017

How old are you and your SO? Old enough to know better. 

Are you married, in a committed relationship, etc.? Engaged to be married in October 2017!

How long have you and your SO been together? Working on 5 years. 

At what age did you become CFBC? I sealed the deal at 11, but always knew even as young as 7 or 8. I submitted a “where will you be in 20 years” essay about how I would be living with TONS of cats. Teachers must have had a fabulous laugh about that!

Fiance is simply not interested in children. He says, “I love my nephews and niece… In 2 hour increments.”

Is your SO CFBC or ok with whatever on the kid issue? Yes. We both have always been vocal with each other about not wanting to have children. It makes me love him even more!

What do you use for birth control (if applicable)? Birth control pill. 

Do you have any pets (or are you pet free as well)? RIP Baba Ganoush! We are currently without a furbaby, though after the mourning period we will likely raise another domestic mammal of some kind. 

What does your family/friends think of you being CFBC? Because I have talked about my loathe for children since childhood, I think my parents would be MORE surprised/concerned if I started talking about WANTING to have children. However, they think the reasons I do not want children is because I am selfish. 

My FIL’s say things like, “well, when you guys have kids…” ALL of the time. I have mentioned quite a few times to them that I have no interest in having children. Because I am a bit dry/sarcastic, I think they think I am kidding. Fiance and I have plans to simply tell them we are infertal. 

Do you have any immediate family members or friends who are CFBC? I have a cousin (now retired) who never married or had children. I am not sure if she was truly a CFBC person or not, but she has always been a very happy and wonderful individual! We have a couple of friends who do not have children “right now”, but talk about the possibility. So, I do not know if they are 100% CFBC’ers. 

What are your hobbies? Travel, canoeing, outdoors/camping, reading, movies, ANIMALS, science, history, shopping, food and fine dining/eating out. 

Why are you CFBC? I simply do not want to raise/teach/parent and being responsible for another human being. I excel at so many things in life and raising a person simply would not be one of them. Fiance loves the freedom and financial freedom of not having children as well. We just focus on us and our love. 

How do you respond when others ask you why or when you are going to have kids? For a long time I gave people the truth, but… many were quite rude about it. So, now I tell people, very coldly, that “I’m barren” (and yes I use that exact verbage). 

How are you preparing for a CFBC life in “old age”? We have decided that our youngest niece (who is currently 10) will take care of us when we are old and feeble. lol. Don’t worry, we will also have a caretaker built into our retirement budget. 

What do you do for a living? Physician and Therapist. Ironically, my specialty is working with children/teens. I love my work, am excellent at it and even have received awards in my field. 

 

 

Post # 77
Member
60 posts
Worker bee

Hello everyone! 

This is my first post here and I came to the site by way of a post on this board. I’m so excited to introduce myself!

How old are you and your SO? I’m 38 he’s 43. 

Are you married, in a committed relationship, etc.? In a committed relationship… waiting.

How long have you and your SO been  together? Officially almost 2 years. But we have been doing this thing (and at times avoiding this thing) for 9 years. Best friends that everyone was rooting for finally “gave in” and it is amazing. <3

At what age did you become CFBC? Before I knew where ababies came from I thought they grew like apples on trees. Just happened at the right time. Soon as I found out I could choose, I knew. Like 8?

Is your SO CFBC or ok with whatever on the kid issue? He has 3 teenage daughters from a previous marriage. He’s done.

What do you use for birth control (if applicable)? Mirena IUD

Do you have any pets (or are you pet free as well)? 2 pit bulls, 7 year old littermates  

What does your family/friends think of you being CFBC? My sister supports me but would love niece/nephews

Do you have any immediate family members or friends who are CFBC? Brother is too!

What are your hobbies? Games, paintball, crafts, reading and I do chocolates and party favors on the side.

Why are you CFBC? I’m not a mom. Never saw myself that way. 

How do you respond when others ask you why or when you are going to have kids? I am too old to take anyone’s crap on this. I tell them my truth and if they don’t like it, I have no problems calling them a biased breeder and move on about my way. No time for that crap. 

What do you do for a living? I’m a teacher and SO is a paraprofessional in an autism class.

Post # 78
Member
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

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StacyLynn313 :  I feel like you just told my story word for word……except change cats to dogs. Glad there are more people like my H and I in the world!

Post # 79
Member
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

I don’t think I’ve done this yet! 😀

 

How old are you and your SO? 

I am 24, she will be 25 this year.

Are you married, in a committed relationship, etc.?

Engaged 🙂

How long have you and your SO been  together? 

Approximately 2 years

At what age did you become CFBC?

For as long as I can remember. I love kids, but I also love that I can give them back when they get annoying.

Is your SO CFBC or ok with whatever on the kid issue? 

Yep – although she generally would prefer kids over no kids. She decided if I never wanted kids that she would rather be with me and no kids than with anyone else just for the sake of kids, so about 23/24. The compromise is that we aren’t saying “no” for certain, but that it will never be a “yes” unless we are both on board. I keep an open mind and try to engage in parenting things (such as watching our nieces/nephews, spending time with them, etc.), just like she tries to keep an open mind to not having kids. But if I don’t come around to having them, or if I do and she decides it is a no for her then no kids for us.

What do you use for birth control (if applicable)? 

BC Pill. She is switching to an IUD. We are large donators to Vasalgel, so hopefully if they have any early adopters I can be one of them.

Do you have any pets (or are you pet free as well)? 

2 dogs – The one in my profile pic is about 1.5 years. Our newest is about 7 weeks.

What does your family/friends think of you being CFBC?

Friends seem to not care for the most part. I know some of her family is a bit meh about it and thinks I forced it on her, mine is pretty supportive of it and actually defends when people ask how soon we are having kids.

Do you have any immediate family members or friends who are CFBC?

I have some friends who are. I have some family that isn’t immediate that I am close to who aren’t by choice, but by circumstance who I look up to for their tenacity through it.

What are your hobbies?

Skydiving, riding motorcycles, triathlon are my big ones.

Why are you CFBC? 

I believe children will actively detract from me seeking fulfillment in life. I have large aspirations, particularly around my hobbies. Many that would be difficult if not impossible to reach due to sacrifices I would have to make by children. I have changed careers and other aspects of my life specifically to give me more time away to pursue these interests. Children would likely impede my ability to accomplish these. While I believe life is about experiences, I don’t believe that there is a single experience that would be worthy of throwing away even the opportunity for all others that I don’t know about. For that reason, I can’t see myself being able to justify having kids.

How do you respond when others ask you why or when you are going to have kids?

I usually tell them we have 2 dogs already, isn’t that enough for our family? Or I just ignore them.

How are you preparing for a CFBC life in “old age”? 

Saving aggressively for retirement and paying down debt. We are shooting to be financially independent by 40 – to the point where we can retire if we want. We both enjoy travel a lot, and feel that it is very fulfilling to us. In an ideal world, we would get to spend old age – aka past retirment – in pursuit of travel and other satisfying things to us. When we get too old for that we will have each other without being sad that children aren’t visiting anyway.

What do you do for a living?

I am a chemist.

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