(Closed) CFBC bees with pets…are you a pet "mommy" or "parent"?

posted 3 years ago in No Kids
Post # 16
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Bumble bee

We definitely refer to ourselves as mom or “mumma” and dad or “puppa”. We also speak in little kid voices when we imitate the dogs, one of them can’t say his R’s yet and always uses a W sound for example.  Cuz he’s still wittle.

Post # 17
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

We’re hard core pet parents.  In fact, dh says one of the things that initially attracted him to me was my wonderful pack of German Shepherds.

We refer to each other as mommy and daddy.  We have certain words that must be pronounced in baby talk such as “dink” for “drink”.  Given our advanced ages, this habit is probably especially repulsive.  

Dh has two grown sons and became CFBC after that.  I’ve never had kids, never wanted them.  I have wondered if the dogs are a substitute.  I don’t really care, the dogs are the center of our universe.

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We are ‘parro-nts’ to two birds. We do refer to ourselves as Bird-Mum and Bird-Dad on occasion. No desire for human children though.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I have noticed my child free friends (not just by choice but also the havent had kids yet) are rediculously parental and close to their pets… where as our pets are just our pets, same with my other parental friends – I love my pets but I would never call myself another creatures mom because it had/has an actual mom somewhere and the idea is completely bizarre to me

calling a animal baby (I dont do it but know some that do) isnt as bad as the animal is a baby (as in younger that the others) but not as in ‘my’ baby

odd one but I have a child free by choice friend who has many, many pets who she breed and raised from babies but she only treats a handful like children and the rest as pets… I never understood how the seperation between one animal you raised being special and ‘child like’ and the next one you raised being just a pet comes about – very, very confusing

 

Post # 20
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Busy bee

Yeah, definitely our puppies are our babies. We love them more than any people we know.

To be honest we started the “mummy” and “daddy” thing as a joke. We are CFBC and used to spook one another by using the words “Mummy” and “Daddy” like “Aww, you’re as cute as your daddy!” and Darling Husband would shudder and say “Don’t call me that!” 

Then it evolved to “Don’t drag your ass on the carpet! Don’t imitate your Daddy…” 

At some point it stuck.

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

My pets are pets, not children. It’s a big pet peeve of mine when people talk about their pets like they’re babies. Always has been. That said, I haven’t really noted any correlation between people referring to being “pet parents” and being CFBC, planning to have children or already being actual parents. It just seems like a personality thing to me. I’d say the vast, vast majority of people aren’t compensating for anything. 

Post # 22
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Blushing bee

Our pets are definitely treated like special members of the family, although I don’t know that I treat them the same way I would treat a child! Lol. Our dogs are spoiled and we refer to one another as mom or dad. Our Dane actually likes playing hide and seek so I will tell her to “go get dad” and she will run around the house like a crazy person looking for him. While we are mom or dad to the dogs, the cats we are usually man-human or slave. Hahaha. But they don’t react the same way to being called or given orders, so it’s sort of whatever. 

Post # 23
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Our dog is the kid we have. Does he fill a void? Maybe, it is hard to say, and quite frankly we don’t care. He brings us a lot of joy and has enriched our lives a lot. I am his Mommy, the fella is his Daddy. He has a lot of  friends, a co-worker of the fella’s calls him her boyfriend. I adore that we got him together and are equally invested and in love with him. 

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

We definitely call us dog mom and dog dad. Because he is our kid in every way. It’s not compensating for the lack of children or need for one. He really is one. I have to think of him before me and everything I do is with him in mind. And I love him to pieces.

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

dreamreve1 :  Omg I don’t mean to be a jerk but….he is NOT your kid in EVERY way. That would mean biologically too…..

That just sounds really delusional. So I’m going to assume you don’t actually mean what you said.

Post # 26
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek

I’m pretty sure this is common and normal. My Fiance and I DEFINITELY don’t want kids, but we do something similar with our cat. 🙂

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Yep, Our dog is our furchild. She completes our CFBC family and I am fine with that. She travels with us, we enjoy activities together and I throw her lavish birthday parties. I have no shame about it.

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

amb1030 :  Would you say the same to someone who said their adopted child was their child “in every way”? Just wondering…

 

I don’t call myself CFBC anymore, since I did change my mind about kids, but I definitely used parental terms back then as well as now. I know many people that do the same, both human parents and non-parents. 

Post # 29
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

SithLady :  Probably not. Because that would be a human being, not an animal. I do not put animals at the same level that I put a person. Besides, someone who adopted a child and said that would likely be saying it because they want to feel like that child truly IS theirs in every way, including coming from their own body. Even though they know it’s not true. 

But with a dog…there’s no way a dog can come from a human. They are very different points to me. 

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I have two cats and I consider myself a member of their staff pretty much. I’m definitely just their owner. Other people do refer to me as their mum though (vets do, my friends do, family members do) and I don’t bat an eyelid. I’m obviously not their mother, but they are my cats, they are family, and I think the term is generally used as endearment. 

ETA I’m not CFBC. I know CFBC people who don’t call themselves mum and dad to their pets, and I know people with kids who do.

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