- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2017
I totally get this. I always thought I’d get married young. Be married a few years, then have four children, then travel and do more with my husband again once the children were older. I didn’t get married young; now that I am married, the thought of children terrifies me. DH and I talk about it, but the truth is I think we both know that we view it as this hazy future possibility, rather than a realistic choice that we want to make soon.
I love my time with DH, the ease with money/budget we currently have, and I love traveling with him. I wish I had met him at a younger age so that I wouldn’t be worried about my biological clock and PCOS struggles when I haven’t even been married 6 months yet. The current decision in place, is that we will discuss my getting off BC at the end of this year, as we’ll have been married a little over a year at that point and in the time it takes to conceive and the 9 months pregnancy, we’ll have been together 2 or more years before we actually have a child.
But honestly? If I wasn’t in my late 20s with a PCOS diagnosis, I’d put off having children for another 5 years at least, and reevaluate then.