(Closed) CFBC: How Old Were You When You Knew? (Poll Included)

posted 4 years ago in No Kids
  • poll: I knew I wanted to be CFBC when I was:
    Under 14 years old : (40 votes)
    32 %
    14-19 : (21 votes)
    17 %
    20-25 : (23 votes)
    19 %
    26-30 : (16 votes)
    13 %
    31-35 : (9 votes)
    7 %
    36-40 : (2 votes)
    2 %
    41-45 : (1 votes)
    1 %
    46+ : (0 votes)
    I'm not sure yet. : (12 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    555 posts
    Busy bee

    I was 11.

    I had a similar reaction as you as a child of around 6 or 7. After watching several family members get married and soon after, be pregnant, I thought it was the white fancy ceremonial dress and a kiss that made women pregnant. I refused to wear white for 2 years before someone explained some basics!

    I remember one day when I was 11 playing with a toy kitchen with a friend, her mother asked me how many babies would I like to have one day. I said “none” and she laughed and said “You’ll change your mind when you’re older!” and I remember I sort of sing-songed a response under my breath “no I won’t” 

    Go little me! 

    Post # 3
    Member
    9527 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I was told the mechanics of sex when I was in kindergarten. It all just sounded gross! Okay, sex is pretty great but pushing out a child, not so much. Never felt the want of kids. There are many amazing women who are born to be wonderful mothers. I’m not one. Never felt I would be. I help take care of my friend’s 2 1/2 year old when he needs help, did so today. She is great! But still can’t see myself as a mother.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1609 posts
    Bumble bee

    sassy411:  I have never had any interest in babies or younger children but I suppose I never fully admitted that to myself that didn’t want kids really until my teens. As a kid I had no interest but as a kid you sometimes don’t always have the awareness of what that means or put it into context of you having kids. By the time I was a teen and your more knowledgeable of having children yourself and you even see the odd teen pregnancy you start to think to yourself about your own future on the topic. I just couldn’t wrap my mind around why people would want kids, to me all I could feel or see was the negatives about it. I’ve never felt broody or had any desire towards them, I’m not really enthusiastic about anybody else’s, it’s just how am I suppose.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1987 posts
    Buzzing bee

    sassy411:  I have never imagined myself as a mother, not even when playing house or with dolls.  I am so old that it was still considered OK to do things make little girls play at cooking at home and taking care of baby dolls instead of playing office worker or construction worker (that was for the boys only).  I remember telling a teacher that the baby in the crib had to be someone else’s, because I didn’t want it!

    Post # 7
    Member
    1104 posts
    Bumble bee

    sassy411:  yep, i knew at a very young age too. never played mommy or loved babies. i didn’t even get along with kids that well when i was a kid. my experience of childhood in general was pretty negative. i love being an adult. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I’ve known since I was a kid. Like I felt awkward around toddlers when I was one. I’ve never liked kids. Ever. When I look at a baby, I don’t go aww and want to hold it. Instead I feel a little grossed out, break into a cold sweat, and try to run away haha

    People are still telling me I will change my mind 24 years later… And I’m just like yeah, I’ll mull that over as I enjoy sleeping in tomorrow. 

    I could see myself adopting when we are much older, and doing so for an older child. But littles just scare me. Unless they are furry and go woof or meow. Then, then I’m a sap. But human offspring terrify me. Especially the thought of having my own!

    Post # 9
    Member
    101 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Honestly I love kids, I don’t like dogs or cats that much but i always knew I never wanted to have any of my own children. I guess it really hit me at a young age around 8 maybe, i watched this old molly ringwald movie with my mom called for keeps, i love the movie but anyways after she had the baby she had a depression phase and began to resent the baby well that went away and there was a happily ever after but there was a line in the movie when she said that when she was pushing out the baby eveything good and young about herself was being ripped away as well and i just thought to myself why would i want to put myself through something like that its not like i have to have children but my family sees it as me being selfish somewhat but idc I know sounds weird but I’d prefer to adopt even thought I could have my own I think childbirth is just too much for me as well as pregnancy some people don’t understand especially my in laws but I feel personally I would resent my children if I had to go through so much pain in some weird way ? But I would love to adopt a child and my husband agrees with me and supports this decision. 

    • This reply was modified 3 years, 10 months ago by  honeymuffin.
    Post # 10
    Member
    81 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    When I was little, I always knew I didn’t like kids. But for some reason I literally thought I had to because every woman I knew had kids. I guess in my little mind I thought it was just something women do when they grow up. I figured out I actually had a say in the matter when I was older, and didn’t admit to myself that I really didn’t want kids until I was about 15. It’s the best decesion for me. Thankfully, in NYC there are a lot more women who choose not to have kids and networks for meeting other CF people (who can’t you meet in the city? lol).

    Post # 12
    Member
    544 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - Not sure

    I came upon this decision when I turned 30. I’ve always been on the fence. I always said I absolutely would not want to have children unless I was married. Well, I’m finally engaged. I’m 36. I know plenty of women have kids at my age. But, truth is, I just didn’t want to get to this age to start trying. My Fiance actually hates most kids. So he kinda helped the decision along. Also, I am Bipolar. For me, I figured I probably shouldn’t have kids. Not that Bipolar people shouldn’t have them, don’t get me wrong now, I just figured FOR ME, it is best I go childless. I LOVE kids, but it’s just not in the stars for me.

    Post # 13
    Member
    681 posts
    Busy bee

    I was probably around 14-16 when I decided I didn’t want kids. Before that as a child, I wouldn’t play with the baby dolls people insisted on giving me, and I hated it when women would make me hold their babies. I thought babies were boring, ugly, and gross. Not much has changed, lol.

    Post # 14
    Member
    169 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I never wanted children. In my 33 years I’ve not once wanted a child… Never even crossed my mind!

    Post # 15
    Member
    9057 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I knew from very early childhood that I never wanted children and I was vocal about it. In fact I’m about to collect on a hell of a lot bets made by foolish relatives who said I would change my mind by x age. About to be very rich lol!

    I was never interested in playing house/mum. My dolls had careers and went to the beach with their equally as fabulous fellow childless dolls. 

    It is not that I dislike kids, infact I find most kids to be better humans than most adults, but I just never wanted any of my own. 

    My friends call me the child whisperer and tell me it is a waste that I am not having any but mostly I just treat children as fellow humans that have minds and feelings if their own rather than as children. Something I think that often gets lost in the stressful parenting hub bub. 

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