- 11 months ago
By popular demand this new thread is finally here. There is definitely a need for this thread so let’s make sure it’s a safe and welcoming place for everyone who doesn’t want kids, unsure, feeling peer pressure and wanting to learn more about CFBC
Some backstory: I never wanted kids. It was confirmed by my Au-Pair experience. The kids were ok, it’s just for me spending time with them was emotionally draining. I can’t explain it. I am lucky (I guess) that most of my friends (who are 30+) don’t have kids and not even planning so I am not surrounded by people who contastantly remind me about my biological clock and all that…
HOWEVER, when I met my SO I started getting baby fever. I know that motherhood is not made up of Kodak moments alone but when I see couples with kids I get slightly jealous and I can’t imagine my SO not having kids. I think he could be such a great Dad and I am sure he wants kids eventually.
Not having kids means no big family events like Christmas and Thanksgiving when we grow older…if one of us passes away it will be harder to deal with it…My mum often tells me that without me her life would be empty (even though she had plenty of amazing experiences and her life is very fulldilling by itself) She never wanted kids but then around 32 changed her mind and she said it was the best decision of her life. We are very very close. My mum also doesn’t like other people’s kids but she loves me a lot and she confirmed that it’s different when it’s yours. Apparently…
We are avid travellers but some say – you can’t travel when you have kids. Is it really true? My SO’s friends have kids and some of them have travelled to more than 30 countries. I always see couples travelling with kids…I am sure the experience is different though…No doubt about that.
I am torn and not sure if having kids is for me. I posted a similar message in a facebook group for CFBC and everyone told me I shouldn’t have kids but unlike most CFBC I definitely have my doubts and I have a feeling I might regret having kids. My SO and I won’t even start trying for another 2 years at least but it’s still something that has been on my mind for a while.
Please feel free to share your thought and experiences 🙂