Post # 1
Which Bees are Childfree By Choice?
Just so everyone is clear, CFBC means electing to actively avoid every form of parenting for the rest of our lives.
If anyone posts in this thread just to bingo us, I’m going to ask that the CFBC Bees refrain from responding to those types of Bees.
They don’t deserve our attention if they cannot respect our choices.
I’ll start-my husband and I have been married for 7 years and we are happily childfree.
Post # 2
Hi, I’ve been with my fiancé for 5 years, we are CFBC. We will remain so as I made the choice permanently
Post # 3
CFBC here! Darling Husband and I have been married for four years now, and I paid for his vasectomy last year as a Christmas gift to myself 😂 I’d eventually like to take permanent measures myself too, but I’m 27 and not having any luck convincing doctors yet. Darling Husband is 35 so he didn’t have a hard time getting the snip.
Post # 4
Me too! Fortunately (or maybe not) nature is soon going to make it a total non issue. Hello hot flashes!
Post # 5
Fiance and I have been together 5 years and we’re quite certain that we’ll be CFBC. As I mentioned in another thread, I want to advance my career and get my degree, travel a ton with Fiance, and do things together (we’re currently learning french at a local college). We’re thinking of volunteering abroad as well. That being said, we’re in our late 20’s so the pressure is on from friends and family (“when are you having kids?” “are you going to get pregnant after you’re married?”)- so annoying!
Post # 6
Happily childfree here! Married three years.
Post # 7
Here! Been together 10+ years, have had an abortion to keep the status quo and would do it again.
Post # 8
40 years old, CFBC my whole life. Doubled down a few years ago and had a hysterectomy.
Post # 9
We’ve been together 12 years, married for a few months now. We are like 95% CFBC. I leave the option open because who knows what happens when I turn 35 or 40 (28 now). That said, I don’t like kids and have never had the urge to be a parent. I foster dogs, and that is hectic enough!!
Post # 10
I am 34, husband is 37. We have been together for 3 years, married for 1. We have a cat because we feel a dog is too much responsibility and work so yeah children are so out of the question.
Post # 11
Been together with my Fiance for over 5 years and we never want children.
Post # 12
Husband and I have been married 5 years, together 10+, and I have always known I don’t want kids. Husband was totally on board even back when we were dating so we are glad we found each other and can live our lives the way we want. We’re both in our early 30s and consider ourselves big kids with lots of living and adventures still to come and kids just don’t factor into our future.
Post # 13
Mostly CFBC. I could imagine a bit of an extreme situation where I would be willing to become a guardian, but I’m not even at the top of the list as the backup plan. Aunty is the right role for me, not Mom!
Post # 14
CFBC, happily married and nearly 40, no kids for us! We have fids instead (feather kids/ birbs!)
Post # 15
CFBC, 31, married 3.5 years but been together for over 12 years.
Would like to be a dog mum some day but that won’t be for a while yet as we’re currently renting and would need to be sure we had the time etc.
Biggest perks for me of being CFBC are the freedom, having more money (we’re not remotely well off but can afford nice things because we don’t have children), and the travel (last year I went abroad 6 times and also squeezed in 3 mini breaks within my country!).
I wouldn’t call myself militant CF, however, I don’t really like children and prefer not to be around them or spend time with them if possible. This is particularly the case for children under the age of 10.