CFBC Roll Call!

• sassy411
• 2 months ago

• Wedding: November 2010

twoanchors :  

Please tell us more about yourself!  And welcome to the form!

• magpiebee
• 2 months ago

I’m another CFBC bee! I’ve always known I didn’t want them and so wouldn’t settle until I found a partner who felt the same. It was worth the wait and we’ve been together over a year now. 

• notkhaleesi
• 2 months ago

Me and my guy! We met online, and one of the things that attracted me to him was that he mentioned he’d gotten a vasectomy. I had actually just scheduled my bilateral salpingectomy a couple weeks before we met and had it done about a month and a half after we started dating. I think we both feel very secure in not having to worry that the other person will change their mind, and it feels nice and equal since we’ve both gone through being sterilized. We got engaged relatively quickly (after only dating a year), but I think being committed to being CFBC was a big part of that. We are also both in our 30s, have dated plenty, knew what we wanted in a partner and fit each other perfectly, so it wasn’t just being childfree. 🙂

• sassy411
• 2 months ago

• Wedding: November 2010

notkhaleesi :  

Being snipped is definitely a big plus.  I think men have to have a certain confidence in their own masculinity to get it done.  Dh was fixed when we met, I liked that about him. 

• notkhaleesi
• 2 months ago

sassy411 :  The last guy I dated before my fiance claimed he was on the same page about not having kids. It wasn’t until I started searching for a doctor to sterilize me that he admitted he did want kids and had always assumed I would change my mind someday. After he and I split up, I decided to wait until I had my bilateral salpingectomy scheduled to date again so any guy I met would know I was serious and not changing my mind on this issue. Then I met my, now, fiance and was trying to figure out if it made sense for me to still get sterilized since he was fixed, and the finance department said my surgery was going to cost over $4k. But I figured if things didn’t work out between us, it would be nice to have this taken care of already and went through with it.

The best surprise was that the finance department was wrong in their quote. Because the surgery was both birth control and considered preventative care (because there is research that indicates removing the tubes lessens the risk of ovarian cancer), the surgery was 100% covered. The only money I paid out of pocket was $700 for the anesthesia since, for some weird reason, surgery was fully covered but not the anesthesia. Now it’s nice knowing we’re protected on both of our sides, and our chances of accidentally getting pregnant are about as small as they could possibly be.

• sassy411
• 2 months ago

• Wedding: November 2010

notkhaleesi :  

That is a happy outcome.  Insurance companies are so crazy.  Are you supposed to have the surgery without the anesthesia to save a few bucks?

• dulci
• 2 months ago

Hiya! CFBC here. Been with my partner 10yrs next year (also the same year we’re planning to get married). We’ve been engaged for two years, just sadly, never been in the position to start saving for a wedding.

Both settled in our jobs now, we rent and have a beautiful 7yr old cat! (he’s in my picture). My hobbies are video games and board games and my partner is the same. 

My partner has always not wanted children, it took me a little bit longer to not! As I thought I did. But, I am so happy the way things are 🙂 

• sassy411
• 1 month ago

• Wedding: November 2010

dulci :  

Agree with the PP, your kitty is a beauty!

• dulci
• 1 month ago

sassy411 :  

groomsister35 :   Awh! Thank you both, he’s a massive pain in the behind honestly 😛 

• adreamdeferred
• 1 month ago

CBC here! I’m 29 and Fiance is 32. Luckily we haven’t had too many “Bingo” comments, but I think that’s also bc we were together almost 7 years before engagement, and I don’t bring it up too much in convos. I feel like bc we are engaged and once we’re married, the comments will flow…

We have 2 cats and our goals are traveling and me getting out of debt! (Thanks, college…) I enjoy tv, my cats, baseball games, going to the pool w my nieces in summer, and going to bars on occasion. I like spending my time how I want to 😉 I know they say it changes when they’re your own, but we both would rather not be around children, given the choice.