(Closed) CFBC- What do you use for your BC method?

posted 3 years ago in No Kids
Post # 2
587 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I use an IUD – I got my first one in 2007 and then got a new one put in in 2013. This one will be “expired” in 2018, so we are exploring permanent options for maybe next year before my current IUD needs to be taken out.

Everyone is different, but I had major issues on birth control and couldn’t stay on it when I was younger. I had very few problems with the IUD (spotting for the first couple of months with my first one, but that regulated to no periods by the end of the first year and I have had zero issues with it or my second one). The insertion/removal was uncomfortable, but it was 45 seconds of pain for 5 years of protection that is more effective (statistically) than female or male sterilization alone. I’m sorry you had such trouble with the Mirena IUD and that it’s not an option for you! I have a friend with the Paragard and she loves it, hopefully that works for you.

Sounds like (from the comment made) your doctor would be supportive if tubal ligation is what you want.

Post # 3
6312 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m currently on a mini-pill (progestogen only pill) called Zelleta. Been on it for 6 years, been mainly good (I use it as a treatment for my endometriosis as well as as BC), no periods, no pill-related weight gain, skin is fine etc. I do however get hot flashes and night sweats, and have noticed a big drop in libido. I’m prepared to put up with those as overall it’s been the best method for me, and was basically the last method I was prepared to try. 

Prior to that I was on microgynon for nearly 6 years from age 15 to age 21,which was great apart from the fact I developed cervical erosion which got worse and worse (to the point I would bleed for days after sex and so was constantly bleeding) and I didn’t see the point of laser treatment as it wouldn’t be treating the cause (the pill).

Next was Depo Provera which was 10 months of hell: significant weight gain despite dieting, anxiety, depression, fatigue, total loss of libido, vaginal dryness. Stuck it out for 3 injections then decided enough was enough. I was diagnosed with endo while on it, so decided to go for another progesterone only method to try to suppress my periods, which helps endo. 

Then I had a Mirena fitted. Had almost zero side effects apart from severe pelvic pain which kicked in after 4 weeks, started off intermittent, and by 4.5 months was constant (pelvic pain can be an issue far women who have never been pregnant, as the uterus is smaller). After tests showed no infections, and that it was fitted properly, I had it removed at the 6 month mark on my doctors recommendation. 

I then went back on microgynon, cycling it this time (running packets back to back) for a year, before switching to Zelleta, which I’ve now been on for nearly 6 years. 

I’ve considered sterilisation, but it’s expensive (I can’t make the argument that it would save the NHS money on contraception as I would still need to stay on the pill because of the endo, ie, I’d basically be asking them to shell out £1500 for my peace of mind), and endometriosis just LOVES scar tissue, so I’m wary of having gynae relatedness surgery unless essential. If/when I need further surgery for my endo, I will likely request sterilisation at the same time. 

Also, I’m not against abortion, and thankfully it is free and easy to obtain in the UK, so, while the pill I’m on is not the most effective, I don’t feel the need to double up. 


Post # 4
5163 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

I am now sterilized. I had a bilateral salpingectomy where they remove the tubes completely. I had put off sterilization or not thought it necessary for a while as I was happy with other birth control methods and did not want to go through surgery, but then I started having issues with other methods and had some other surgeries and sterilization did not look so bad anymore! It was covered 100% under provincial healthcare, and I personally did not have the issues finding a doctor to do it for me as I know some do, but I was also in my 30s when I first approached a doctor about doing it. 

It was (for me) a very easy surgery. Waking up from general for me is never pleasant but recovery was great and I had really little to no restrictions. I had my tubes removed entirely (still laprascopically, as with a regular tubal) as there is research to show that some ovarian cancers actually start in the tubes and while *I* personally have a hereditary risk of breast and ovarian cancer so this was incentive for me (I have already had prophylactic mastectomies), I know that there is more encouragement these days even for removal of tubes during sterilization in women without that increased risk since they are in there anyway. The bonus is that with complete tubal removal (unlike clips or cutting & cauterization) there is NO risk of failure (no clips are going to fall off, no tubes are going to regrow back together.) A little higher chance of bleeding etc though.

But, over the years I have used the pill for a couple long periods (~9-10 years, and 2 years) as well as a copper IUD (~7 years), and condoms + avoiding fertile times.

The pill, eh, I never had HUGE issues with it, it was more like the slowly creeping side effects that got me….lower libido, dulled emotions (sort of like I was in a fog), increased anxiety. Each time I went off of it it was so clear how much it affected me.

Condoms just made me nervous, when I was younger I had an unplanned pregnancy due to a condom failure (I terminated the pregnancy) and while these days Plan B and such is available it is not fool proof and sometimes you don’t know if something failed until you are late (that is what happened to me).

I actually LOVED the copper IUD – no hormones, very effective, no “user error”. I planned to use it until menopause as I thought it was amazing, but I started having some complications with it after about the 6th year and after hoping it would work out, finally had it removed and could not go back to it again.

If your partner is prepared to do a vasectomy, that is generally an easier process than a tubal though. My husband was willing to do a vasectomy but in my case I felt I was more the *childfree* one (he is childfree more so because *I* am childfree) and to me it was making a positive choice, and for me there were also risk reduction benefits. I had also done surgery before (which my husband has not) and so I felt more comfortable with it, and knowing my own reaction to general, and so on.


Post # 5
1313 posts
Bumble bee

Wow OP, sounds like you have had some difficult times! Luckily I have been a BC pill user only and it’s been effective so far. Like barbie86 said, I also have terrible night sweats/hot flashes at night and have zero libido. It sucks but overall I feel like I can deal with these small effects when the pill is so easy and convenient to use. I just set an alarm on my phone and every night take the pill within a minute of the alarm sounding. Haven’t had any problems/scares as of yet. I would love for Darling Husband to get a vasectomy but he is still holding out some hope that I’ll change my mind about kids. 

Post # 6
1624 posts
Bumble bee

serenitysky:  Personally I’m on the one hormone pill called Desogestrel. Before that I was on the Yasmin pill. They haven’t let me down yet but think I am always a little cautious in case they do because I know what my decision will most likely be if it fails. If I had it my way I would have been sterilised already but in the UK I’m considered way too young to have it other than for medical reasons. It’s nice that the nhs is free to have it done but unfortunately does dictate when they will allow it.

Post # 7
901 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I use Paragard, it’s the only thing I have never used. I wanted something that didn’t have hormones (bad history with that). I could never use pills because of hormones; and also I seriously do not understand how most women can use those things every damn day! I would be forgetting all the time! Kudos to the diligent women who remember every day! 

I have thought about something more permanent – and I know this is silly – but I’m secretly hoping I get early menopause. XD

Post # 8
1571 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Wow! I’m counting my blessings that I’ve never had a serious issue with BC. I started on the Pill (not 100% sure which kind, just whatever generic kind they give out at PP). Then I moved to the Nuvaring and I love it!


We do still worry about something going wrong, as we know a couple people who have gotten pregnant on BC, so Fiance is looking to get a vasectomy this year. Do you mind if I ask why you are looking at tubal ligation rather than vasectomy?

Post # 9
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Ugh! I feel your pain!

I have been trying forever for permanent BC for me but they won’t do it. Because I may change my mind 😒 

Last year I had a partial hysterectomy after basically living in the oncologist’s office for two years. I almost died because they didn’t do a full hysterectomy. Why didn’t they, you ask? Even after my husband signed everything and told them to? Because I may change my mind. (I’ve disliked children and known I didn’t really want them since I was a kid!)

There’s a tiny chance I could conceive but it would not be good. So I’m on BC. Which makes me hungry, grouchy, and acne prone. But what-evs. All in all, it’s better than taking the chance, so I just try to look on the brighter side 😊

Post # 10
370 posts
Helper bee

Anyone have any issues with the arm implant, like weight gain? I’m considering it, but I have a hard time controlling my weight as is..

Post # 13
5163 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

serenitysky:  I imagine she is referring to Implanon. It seems to be quite popular at the moment.

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