Post # 1
First let me say that I fully support people not having kids if they do not want them. Nobody should have kids they do not want NOW only because of a possible benefit later on. With overpopulation burdening the planet, I am glad some people are making this decision. But that said, just throwing this out for discussion. Do you ever think about what it will be like not to have kids when you are in your 70s, 80s, or 90s? Your parents will be gone, your spouse might pass before you, and it’s possible that even all of your siblings will be gone. Without children or grandchildren, do you worry about being alone, not having someone very close who cares a lot about you? About not having someone to pass your photo albums on to, etc?
Post # 2
I’m CFBC And very happy I made that choice. I am old and I can’t imagine having children with the expectation that they will be there for me in my old age.
They will have their own lives, careers, and families. By the time you’re 90, your “kids” will be enjoying senior discounts themselves.
If you have spent any time visiting a nursing home, you would have a good picture of how “devoted” people’s kids can be.
Certainly, some seniors enjoy happy relationships with their kids, but they are likely the exceptions.
This is a selfish reason to have kids.
Post # 3
People have friends, you know that right? You don’t have to be lonely just because you have no blood relatives alive. And having children is no garuntee they will be around for you when you are old.
I’m not CFBC but this seems like such a ridiculous question. Having children does not ensure being surrounded by people who love you anymore than not having children means you will have no one when you are old.
Post # 4
Not even a little bit, lol. I am and have always been very self sufficient. Without children our disposable income is pretty high. We will have enough money for a very nice assisted living spot. My neice and nephew can have all my stuff when I’m dead, if they want it and if they don’t who cares I’m dead. My 90 year old great Aunt just started a relationship with a new boyfriend, so its not like once you turn 70 you no longer have a social life. I decided to be CFBC in my 20’s, long before I met my husband. I do have an adult stepson so I may have grandchildren but even if I don’t, I know that I made the right decision for me.
Post # 5
I can only name 2 people I know whose family personally cares for elderly members. Everyone else has thrown them in nursing homes- and rarely visit unless it’s a holiday.
Post # 6
Not CFBC, but if one’s reason to have children is to not be lonely when they are old…well that’s not a very good reason. There are many estranged families and dynamics in which that just isn’t a reality. It’s also an unfair expectation of the children.
Relationships are very important in life, but it doesn’t have to be parent-child. That’s why people should invest in relationships with other relatives, their siblings, friends and others. No one wants to be lonely, but you shouldn’t have children thinking that will solve the problem.
Post # 7
Child free people don’t have to worry about being alone in old age. They’ll be living it up in their swanky retirement homes that they can afford for not spending lots of money on children. Lol
Post # 8
My grandmother buried two of her children as adults. Having kids does not guarantee that they will outlive you and take care of you in your old age.
Post # 9
What happens? You’ll have a shit load more money to enjoy your golden years with!
Post # 10
What happens if your children die tragically before you?
What happens if they live in other states or countries?
What happens if you have a bad relationship with your children?
What happens if your children can’t afford to take care of you?
We come into the world alone, and we leave it alone. My parents never took care of their parents when they were old. I’m an only child and I don’t live close to my parents, so they’ll probably be alone too. I suppose I think of it as a part of life. If I don’t have kids, and I happen to live to be very old, I suppose I’ll move into a retirement home in my last days and live it up with some other old people.
Post # 11
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As a nurse in residential care I can attest to those saying family rarely visits. We have only a handful whose family regularly comes. Otherwise for a majority their family comes for major holidays and maybe if they are lucky their birthday. It’s actually quite sad.
Post # 12
No hate to those who have kids, but what happens when the children you raise abandon you in a shitty nursing home?
Just throwing this out for discussion.
Post # 13
I don’t have kids yet. I’m 25 and my fiance and I have decided we will either have none or one kid.
Without children or grandchildren, do you worry about being alone, not having someone very close who cares a lot about you?
My fiance managed a retirement community for 5 years. He saw first hand how many elderly people that have children who do not visit. He said the MOST one child would visit her mother was once a month, the majority visited far less (think like once a year) or not at all. When these people would pass it was his job to call and notify the children. The same children who never cared to come visit their elderly parents. Having kids does not mean you won’t be lonely, it actually might do the opposite. I imagine those old folks felt even MORE lonely because they know they have kids and grandkids who are CHOOSING not to visit as opposed to the people who don’t have kids. Besides, I think having kids so you won’t be “alone” later in life is a terrible (and very selfish) reason to have a child.
Post # 14
I’ll hang out in the old folks home with all the other grannies whose kids don’t come see them I guess. 🤷♀️
Post # 15
As a nurse, the number of kids who can’t be bothered to see their elderly (even when they are dying!!) parents tells me this is a ridiculous reason to sway your decision about children.