Champagne toast for underage guests? Not illegal (I dont think)

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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Blushing bee

In the wedding I went to last, when we entered, you could pick a flute from a tray. There was regular champagne but also non-alcoholic version, it was a slightly different colour and the waiter also pointed it out. Some people were driving so they picked that as did the kids. 

Post # 17
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

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alexam : We thought about the sparkling cider, but it will be impossible for the guests to know which flutes have the cider and which have the alcohol (since they will be prepoured).

So are you not having any non alcoholic substitute?  I think you should have the caterers bring the drinks out on trays and that way adults can request the sparkling cider for kids and so can adults who don’t want the champagne.  I think you will be surprised how many people won’t want the champagne.  Our caterer told us pouring champagne for all guests without asking is the single biggest waste he experiences at weddings, they end up pouring bottles and bottles down the drain from untouched glasses that have already been poured. 

Post # 18
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Honey bee

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alexam :  Which is why a couple of us suggested the far easier route of having them clearly labeled behind tent card signs on a separate table for people to choose and let people grab their own on the way in.  Sparking cider is also usually a little darker in color than champagne, but depends on brands.  You could also provide inexpensive wine glass charms on the non-alcoholic glasses and ask the caterers to use them when filling the flutes or do something like garnish either the alcoholic or the non-alcoholic with a raspberry or something similar to distinguish them.

In addition to kids, you’ll have designated drivers, people who just plain hate champagne (I know way more people who hate it than love it), and people abstaining from alcohol for a variety of life and health choices.

Every catered event I worked that had a “mandatory” champagne toast instead of just letting people toast with their beverage of choice, about 50-75% of the champagne flutes were abandoned mostly full at the end of the night.

Post # 19
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Busy bee

Idk maybe my group is bigger drinkers but I’ve never had a problem with champagne going to waste at an event I’ve been to. I would just have it on the table and parents can monitor their own children, not a big deal. I honestly think offering people alteratives (meaning of age guests, not the children in this situation) for every single little thing at events is getting out of hand. You are offering a champagne toast to your guests. If they don’t want champagne then they don’t have to drink it. 

Post # 20
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I would rethink the route of prepouring all of the glasses with champagne…and not just from the side of not pouring for minors. Not all adults drink and not all adults even like the taste of champagne. It would be nice to have the option of sparkling cider or champange. I do not like champagne and my husband is a recovering alcoholic…would we just have to forgo celebrating the toast at your wedding? Something to think about. 🙂

If it were my wedding I would place the glasses at each setting and set out a bottle of each at each table (or every other table) to let guests pour their glass when the time comes.

Post # 21
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

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buzzerbeater :  Comparing offering a non alcoholic option to “giving an alternative for every little thing” is a bit of an exaggeration. 

It is pretty standard to offer non alcoholic drinks to be served alongside alcoholic drinks. 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - UK

Is it not possible for one waiter to go around to all the minors and give them the non-alcoholic drinks?

Or if you also have preprepoured water then its not a problem I think. As long as the minors have something to toast with that is non-alcoholic.

You might also have pregnant woman or people on medication that might not want the champagne so having a non alcoholic option is always better.  

Post # 23
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Busy bee

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zzar45 :  I don’t really think it is an exaggeration. It’s a 5 second toast. She’s offering champagne, drink it or don’t. It’s not really about the money imo it’s about having one more thing on the list for the bride/groom to coordinate with the venue about doing. It may not seem like a big deal but in the grand sceme of  things I know when I was planning my wedding one more thing to coordinate on top of the other thousand details was a big deal. 

Post # 24
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Worker bee

What about just using sparkling cider for the toast and scratching the champagne for everyone but your head table?? Then you eliminate the issue entirely??

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

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mamaofthree :  But creates an entirely new issue? Champagne for the bridal party and immediate family while then sit at the top table looking down on the peasants with their sparkling cider is so rude. 

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

I think you should have two trays one alcoholic one non-alcoholic. Not all adults drink alcohol so this covers that as well.

Post # 27
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Worker bee

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zzar45 :  Haha. Fair enough. I guess I’m not that sensitive. It’s one drink and I’m assuming there will be other alcohol at the wedding. I’m not sure how anyone would know the drinks were even different considering it would be in the glasses already?? Personally, I wouldn’t be offended…but if others think it’s rude maybe it’s a bad idea.

Post # 28
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Bumble bee

Have them set out the champagne for everyone, each individual will have the choice to drink it or not. People toast with champagne, with the drink they had previously got from the bar (including soda for the kids), with their wine for dinner. Much of the champagne will get wasted, this is just how champagne toasts work. Everyone is massively over complicating it with trays and orders and such. 

 

We had 3 guests who were underage (17, 18, and 20 respectively) and I have no idea if they drank their champagne or if they were served at the bar but it was literally not a problem. I told the venue there were 3 minors and they dealt with it. We had a champagne toast. It was part of our all inclusive reception package. IDK how much champagne was or wasn’t drank but I assume everyone handled it just fine.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

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buzzerbeater :  agreed. I wouldn’t even think of this as an issue. With the weddings I’ve gone to, I always remembered champagne already being poured into flutes and at the table when we got there. We’ll have a 13 year old, 14 year old and 15 year old at the wedding, but either their parents will watch them or not, I’m not really worried about it. I know when I was around 10 or 11 I accidentally took a sip of champagne that was out on the table at a 30th birthday party for my uncle, and I spit it out and thought it was gross. And people who don’t drink alcohol will toast with their water, soda, whatever.

Post # 30
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Busy bee

I would not do this. Even if the venue allows and you give the option to the parents some minors might feel alienated and outcasted if their parent says no. Jusy a thought.

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