Post # 1
We weren’t originally planning on providing our guests with champagne for the toast (we’re on a tight budget and the venue we’re using charges an arm and a leg extra for this – we have to pay by bottle and the only choice is fairly expensive champagne). We were originally thinking of having the guests simply toast with their own beverages/cocktails rather than providing champagne during the toast. The thing is, my mom just spilled the beans that she is getting us toasting flutes that are being flown in from Ireland as a gift for the reception and would like us to have champagne. Is it tacky if we provide champagne for the wedding party (and possibly our parents) during the toast but not all of the guests at the reception?
Post # 3
I don’t think so. We’re doing the same thing, because not only is champagne expensive, most people I know don’t love it. I honestly don’t think anyone will notice if the bridal party gets beverages that they don’t.
Post # 4
That is what we’re doing because the champagne is expensive! Plus most people don’t even like it so it just goes to waste…
Post # 5
I think this could be very tacky. I don’t know if you are doing a head table or if your bridal party will be amongst the other guests, but I think it looks bad if someone goes around pouring champagne to them but doesn’t serve to the rest of the guests.
What about maybe just having the champagne for just you guys? I saw one Bride and Groom that took some AWESOME pictures of them opening and pouring a bottle.
Post # 6
I wouldn’t do this. Just because I went to a wedding where they did this and several people mentioned it/took note. I’d rather skip the champagne altogether than potentially deal with an awkward situation. You and your hubs can always sip from your champagne flutes later–in your hotel room– or on your anniversary.
Post # 7
I could go either way. I mean if you make a big deal about the champagne toast (opening the bottle, pouring it, and serving it while the other guests look on) then I as a guest would be pretty offended about that, but only because I love the bubbly. If you had some glasses poured in the back kitchen and then quietly got them into the hands of the bridal party I might not notice.
Post # 8
One of the venues I originally looked at provided a private champagne toast just for the parents and bridal party right after the ceremony/before entering the reception hall. Maybe you can do the champagne toast with your parents/bridal party before and then during the reception maybe still use your flutes for wine/drink of choice and cheers your guests with their drinks of choice as well?
Post # 9
We did this, and to be honest, I’m not sure anyone even noticed. Like @Trebel_Clef said – most people don’t really love champagne. The venue had a chilled bottle behind the head table for us, and right before the toasts, they discreetly poured our champagne.
Although, we did have champage at the (open) bar, so if they wanted it, they could get it there.
Post # 10
I liked @caszos suggestion of having just the two of you having champagne. I think then the guests won’t care because it’ll be just a bride/groom thing and everyone else, including bridal party, can use their own beverages.
Post # 11
I agree with other posters – if it’s JUST the bride and groom then it’s fine. If it’s the whole bridal party but no one else it’s more obvious that you’re trying to save money by not buying it for all of the guests (I think that looks kind of cheap).
I think you could even eventually share the rest of the champagne with your wedding party and parents once people are dancing – but to do it for the toasts makes it stand out more.
Post # 12
Please don’t do that. It’s really inhospitable to have special food or drink for some guests and not others. Remember the “if you bring birthday cupcakes, bring enough for the whole class” thing from elementary school?
If you and your husband are sitting at a table by yourselves and a waiter discreetly brings the two of you a glass of champagne before the toasts get started, you might be able to get away with it without anybody else noticing. But no spectacle of presenting the bottle, opening it, pouring it, etc.
I also find it really annoying when people tell couples on tight budgets “oh but you MUST have X, Y, and Z”. If the champagne toast is so important to your mom, she can foot the bill.
Post # 13
We’re doing it (champagne for bridal party head table and the two parent tables)!!
I don’t think its tacky at all (especailly because our venue provides champagne for the head table so I’m sure they have a TON of weddings where people choose to not pay additional for everyone else to have it too). Our other guests will have unlimited access to wine and beer so they won’t be out something to toast with.
Champagne costs too much to have so much go to waste from all the guests being poured a glass and a large percentage having ZERO desire to drink it.
Oh – and if anyone asks or comments – we’ll just tell them that it was something the venue provides for those sets of people. Other guests will have no way to know differently!
Post # 14
I was at a wedding where this happened… and people talked about it. It was so ‘tacky’ that 4 years later I still remember it. I totally understand being on a budget, but I think it’s best to skip it. Good Luck
Post # 15
I think it could work if it’s just the two of you with the champagne.
Post # 16
I don’t think it’s tacky at all. I have been to several weddings where they did that and no one cared. It’s what i’m doing for my wedding too.