Post # 1
One of the many mild arguments my father and I are having about the reception is whether or not to have a champagne toast. Our wonderful caterer came up with an estimate for us and it did not inclue a champagne toast; the caterer’s reasoning is that whenever they do them, you end up with a lot of wasted champagne because people already have cocktails in their hands and so don’t drink the poured champagne. My father is grumbling about this and saying how “well some of my friends will be coming to this, and they’re pretty traditional, and I don’t know what they’re going to think about that.” Never mind that the rest of the menu is ridiculously awesome (open bar, raw bar, passed hors d’ouevres with a mini new england lobster roll, roasted local sea bass with local tomatoes for dinner, trays of champagne glasses waiting for guests as they arrive) and so I don’t think anyone’s going to come away with the impression that the wedding was not “traditional enough.”
I agree with the caterer, but am I just being stubborn? Is a champagne toast really necessary?
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I think it’s completely unnecessary! I don’t even like champagne, so when there are champagne toasts, I don’t even drink more than a sip. I think that if you’re having an open bar that should be more than enough!
Post # 4
We’re not doing one for the exact same reason that your caterer gave, and it saves us some money. Our venue’s coordinator told us that it wastes a lot of champagne and it’s really not worth the extra expense because people just toast with whatever they have. We will have champagne at the bar, so if people want it, it will definitely be available. The champagne they use for toasts is never very good anyway! I don’t think anyone will notice. Your menu sounds great!
Post # 5
I completely agree that champagne toasts are unnecessary. Like mentioned above, the champagne just gets wasted because most people don’t drink it. And I think your menu sounds fabulous and with the open bar, people who want champagne can get it.
Post # 6
I think they’re unneccessary, and I know at ours, it sort of slowed down the pace. I’d told them I didn’t want one, but then when we all finally got seated in the dining room, the servers were in the back, trying to pour champagne for everyone, and carrying it around on trays. Exactly what I didn’t want, since it slowed down the whole process of getting the salad course served. Oh well!
Post # 7
I don’t think they are “necessary” but I prefer them. I’ve been to a wedding or two without and when it came to the toast we were all looking around trying to figure out if we should have a glass or not. If you have a lot of guests who are used to the traditional aspect, then I am sure it won’t go to waste.
Post # 8
Maybe have the champagne available, and those who would like some can have some? The servers will have to ask the guests instead of giving everyone a glass by default. If you end up with extra unopened bottles you can return them later.
Post # 9
Nope! Not at all! Infact, we had no alcohol at our reception what-so-ever and no one seemed to mind.
Post # 10
i don’t know anyone who really likes champagne, so we’re skipping it! If people will have other drink options, why waste your money on something maybe 2 people will want and enjoy?!
Post # 11
Totally optional. Lots of people skip the champagne because most of it goes to waste. It’s poured to the brim by bartenders/waiters and many people take a single obligatory sip, if any at all, and leave the rest to go to waste, which is money that could be spent and appreciated elsewhere. Not everyone likes champagne and would prefer to toast with whatever they’re already drinking. It’s also perfectly ok to skip toasts entirely, which folks do as well and they aren’t missed.
Post # 12
IF you are having an open bar how come they are charging you extra for a champagne toast?
Post # 13
I don’t think they’re necessary, but I love them. They’ve always been one of my favorite parts of weddings, but then again, I love champagne!
Post # 14
Not necessary, I think. Back in high school when I was a server at TONS of weddings, we were always dumping out leftover champagne from the toasts, and the waste factor for me was the biggest reason not to do one. Plus we don’t like champagne anyway! I don’t think that not having a champagne toast will immediately make it not traditional enough.
Post # 15
I certainly don’t think it’s necessary…is it an option to have champagne available at the open bar so that your dad’s friends can toast with champagne if they want to?
And maybe this is an inappropriate question, but would you be paying for the toast or your dad? If he’s paying and he really really wants it, just let him have it. If you’re paying, then I’d say he just needs to reconcile himself to the fact that there’s not going to be one, and if his friends really care about that sort of thing and sniff that your wedding wasn’t “traditional enough” then they’re not really friends, anyway.
Post # 16
If he’s paying and he wants it, go for it.