Post # 1
And I’m so sad about it!
I’d been suspecting this for a while, but got confirmation today. I’m not mad at them or anything because I understand that times are tight, but it’s such a bummer. I wish I would have known this 6+ months ago, because I’ve been planning for them to be there this whole time.
Does anyone else have close family that WON’T be coming – and advice on how to deal?
Post # 3
I’m sorry! I would be really sad if my sis couldn’t go. 🙁
On the other hand, my brother is pulling this whole “I don’t know if I’m coming or not” thing and it is really starting drive me crazy. He didn’t go to my other brother’s wedding two years ago because he said he didn’t have enough notice, so we planned well in advance and gave him more than a year’s heads up on the date. It seemed like he was all about going until four months ago when all of a sudden he said he didn’t know if he was going to be able to make it and that the timing might be wrong, etc. etc. He says he won’t know for sure until right before the wedding. The reason this whole thing bothers me so much is that I have tried really, really hard to get our families together and I feel like he just doesn’t want to deal with family stuff so he would rather make up excuses about work and how he can’t go. I don’t know if he doesn’t realize he is hurting my feelings so much or if he doesn’t care. So now we are leaving him a seat and a meal, and if he shows up great, if not whatever. There will just be a sad empty seat at the table.
Post # 4
That’s a major bummer! Is there any time that you’ll be able to see them in the upcoming year? I just ask because maybe you could plan some special “sister get-away” time another weekend? I know it won’t fill the hole that will be there on your wedding day, but if you get together after the wedding you can be sure to bring all your wedding albums and replay the day for them in pictures. Or if it’s before, have them help you work on something special that you’ll have with you the day of your wedding to remind you that they’re supporting you from afar (like a hairpiece or jewelry or…)
Post # 5
This is a sticky situation and I sympathize with you, as I might be dealing with this myself soon. My sister and her hubby are out of state now, with 3 kids. We warned them last summer we would be doing an adults only reception to keep costs down, because otherwise that would be another $1000+, but also because we do not feel an evening reception with an open bar appropriate for kids. Anyway, ff to a couple of months ago when the invitations actually went out, and my sister was surprised to see it was adults only. We didn’t talk for a while, and then recently I thought we were cool, but now I hear my BIL is not bringing the kids to the ceremony either. This could be BAD for my family in the future, as in some ties will be broken due BIL being immature (as he normally is) and reacting because he’s not getting his way. Have people forgotten the ceremony really is the most important part of the day!!!!
Anyway, sorry to vent, but maybe you guys can have a get together some other time? I know it sucks not having family at your big day, but remember it is YOUR day – don’t let these things get you down.
Post # 6
Aw, I’m so sorry! I would be terribly sad too. I hope somehow they’re able to make it!
Post # 7
I don’t know the circumstances, but It’s May and your wedding is in September…. Is there a reason they can’t save money from now until then??