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I am 25 and do not plan to get pregnant anytime soon, but we plan to use condoms only as BC after the wedding this year… Fiance is mid 30s and can’t wait to have kids (he keeps saying how much he wants to “have one slip past the goalie” yikes!!! Hope not! lol), but he understands my desire to focus on my career, enjoy life, save money, and travel for a few more years before babies.
With that said, how foolproof are condoms as a BC method? I am 100% decided against using hormonal BC for myself since I have struggled for years to balance my hormones and have had to keep my diet, exercise and lifestyle ON POINT in order to not have my hormones rebel completely. Do condoms actually work, or no? I know so many people that have had a surprise just this year, so I’ve found myself growing increasingly anxious! I’ve always thought condoms were super legit… Am I wrong?!
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Post # 3
I used only condoms for years and never got pregnant. We are super fertile too and have pretty much got pregnant every month without using birth control. As long as you use them correctly I don’t see a problem.
Post # 4
Condoms have near-perfect efficacy when used properly. Unfortunately, many people don’t use them correctly (get “caught up in the moment” and forget to put one on, don’t squeeze air from the top, etc.) Breakage is extremely rare when used correctly.
I have been using condoms exclusively for nearly three years with no issues whatsoever/no pregnancy. We don’t even use condoms the whole time (just put one on closer to him ejaculating). Prior to that I was using condoms and the pill in conjunction with no breakages (so, 7 years total with no issues).
Post # 5
olivejd: you can use condoms and a spermicidal gel/foam that you put in with an applicator so in case the condom slips or breaks… there is a hostile environment for his guys… or use a contraceprive sponge, or a diaphragm or a cervical cap plus condoms. I got off the pill almost 3 month ago (tired of the side effects, been on it for 4 years) we wont TTC till Aug 2017, and currently using condoms every time we have sex, and use a foam on the more high risk days just to lessen my parranoia lol. My Fiance wants kids very badly like 5 years ago… I want to wait till the wedding, and start TTC right after.
Post # 6
We use condoms. I just can’t deal with/don’t like the hormones from BC. It works for us, you just have to be diligent and ensure its being used properly.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2013 - Outdoor
olivejd: Condoms aren’t terrible if you are using the perfectly, every single time. If you check this out, you can see that there is a HUGE difference in unintended pregnancies with “perfect use” vs “typical use”
Personally, I’d be less worried about the condom failing and more worried about getting lazy with using them, etc.
If you want to lower your risk, you can use charting to identify your fertile periods and either use extra vigilence with condoms during those times or abstain during those times and use condoms during the rest of your cycle.
Anecdotally, My Darling Husband and I used condoms only for several months when we first became intimate, and did not have any surprises.
Post # 8
Fiance and I have been using condoms for about 2 years now and still no baby! We always, always use a condom. If we don’t have a condom, we don’t have sex. It takes a certain amount of self-control to abstain sometimes when you don’t have a condom on hand. There have been a couple of times where the condom broke or there was just something off about it so I took the morning after pill just in case.
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- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
3 years and no pregnancy just using condoms for us. If you use them properly you should be fine.
Post # 10
Glad you opened this thread, OP; my Darling Husband and I are also using condoms only so commenting to follow.
Questions for those whose condom(s) broke before: did you find out afterwards, or during? If during, can you actually tell?
Post # 11
I will be going off the pill in a day or two (when this packet runs out) so will be using exclusively condoms. Use them properly, and if you notice it has broken go and get the morning after pill. I think a lot of people don’t use them properly or don’t use them at all, get knocked up, then bring on the lame ‘oh the condom broke’ excuse. Not to say it can’t happen but I bet it doesn’t happen as often as people claim.
Post # 12
We used condoms as our only form of birth control for almost 2 years, no scares and no babies in that time frame, you should be just fine!
Post # 13
If used correctly every time, they are a great form of BC. Darling Husband and I used them exclusively for 7 years and didn’t once have a scare. Once we started TTC, I got pregnant my second cycle.
Post # 14
Also beware of those things slipping off. Happened to me once, freaked me out! No pregnancy resulted from that tho. Lucky I guess?
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olivejd: one thing to make sure of is that he is wearing the right size condom. Too tight could cause it to break, too loose could cause it to fall off. It’s not his length that matters, but the circumference. Get him to measure his girth then buy condoms that fit his size. You can consult this chart to see which brand will fit him: http://learn.condomdepot.com/condom-size-chart/