Post # 1
Last night I attended the beautiful wedding of my second cousin who is also my co-worker. Everything was going on wonderfully until the bride and groom stepped up for their first dance… my fiance and I looked at each other and immediately recognized the song – it’s our first dance song! We are getting married in less than four months. The overlap of guests from her wedding to mine is significant as we are family and work together. We are now thinking of changing our first dance song. Are we overreacting? Should we keep it? My mom says change it, father says keep it. And if it helps your decision at all – the song was "Lucky" by Jason Mraz.
I know this isn’t a huge deal and we have had this song picked out for months but no one at the wedding will know… I’m afraid to look like we ripped off their song.
Thoughts much appreciated!!!
Post # 3
If you ripped it off, 1000’s of people have too. Don’t worry about it, it’s a popular song. You’ll be fine. If anybody asks, just say how much y’all liked it and have always wanted to use it, etc.
Post # 4
4 months may not seem like a long time when you’re in the midst of planning, but it’s a long time for your guests. I doubt most people (other than the brides and grooms involved) will even notice. Do what makes you happy.
Post # 5
Its not exactly that big of a deal, but I see your point… I’m guessing that you like the song and it really doesn’t have much sentimental value since it is a newer release? So, I mean, it wouldn’t be that big of a deal to you to change it if you’re thinking about it?
What I’m getting at is that… our first dance will be to Lifehouse’s "You and Me" b/c it was our first dance together 4 years ago and it became our song. So even if I knew others that used it… I would NEVER think twice to change it.
Post # 6
If it is "your" song then I would keep it but if its just a song you chose, and you think you might find one equally as suitable, I say find another.
Post # 7
I promise you that I can’t remember the first dance song of any wedding I’ve ever been to. The most I can remember is something vague like "it was a country song." So you are totally fine if you keep it. If, however, it’s really going to worry you AND if you don’t have a strong emotional attachment to it, then go ahead change it just so it’s one less thing you’ll stress about!
Post # 8
I agree with the other comments – you will probably be the only ones that remember, besides that couple. 🙂 And I imagine they would love thinking that you all liked their song enough to pick it – even though that’s not really how it all went down. I saw that as a first dance song a few weeks ago and it was precious. My vote is to keep it.
Post # 9
Big thank you’s to everyone who responded… After thinking it over I agree that no one is likely to remember the song and any song you pick is always going to “rip off” another couple. Although we really love that song, we are going to change it anyway because we really want something that is “ours” :-). In the grand scheme of wedding planning this is just a little blimp on the radar but it definitely had us thinking! Thanks again for the advice ladies!