(Closed) Change in wedding date, while respecting friend's wedding date?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
2260 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

As this isn’t family, I don’t think there are any real rules you need to follow.  For family, a bigger gap is nice- so relatives don’t have to fly to an area twice in the same month or something like that.  For your friends though, I think you’d be fine as long as it isn’t on the same day.

Since they are close friends, maybe check to see if they are going on a honeymoon right after their wedding and avoid the weekend right after their wedding, if they will be gone and you’d like them to be able to attend.

Post # 3
7991 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

a few weeks.  if you want them to attend your wedding, i would give them at least 2 weeks for their honeymoon.  and same the other way.  if you plan before and are going on a honeymoon, just make sure you are back in time since your Fiance is a groomsman.

Post # 4
1338 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I would say just a few weeks. It isn’t the same as family members getting married. It really won’t matter much at all unless you have a big guest overlap.

Post # 5
7571 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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futuremrs1018 :  As long as it isn’t the same day you are free to pick whatever date you want. It is nice that you want to be thoughtful but there really is no need. 

Post # 7
878 posts
Busy bee

I agree that the biggest thing to consider is honeymoon timing and making sure that whoever gets married first will be back and have time to adjust after the honeymoon before the next wedding.

Post # 8
2819 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

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futuremrs1018 :  One month either direction would be great. If you go for one month before I would get busy planning because vendors book up so quickly! We just set a date with our venue for next fall and got the very last Saturday available in 2018. 

Post # 9
2015 posts
Buzzing bee

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futuremrs1018 :  We got married one week after one of DH’s groomsmen did. They stood in each other’s weddings and it was no big deal. But, there were very few guests that were invited to both, and most of those guests lived in the area of both weddings, so travel wasn’t an issue. If you have a lot of overlap, I’d think a month would be sufficiently far apart.

Post # 10
2363 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I would do one month either way out of curtosy for them since they set their date first, but that’s me. I don’t think there are any “rules” per say…but at least a couple weeks IMO. 

Post # 11
51 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I know there are no “rules” but I would try to not set my wedding before theirs. A month after is fine. TBH I think 9mnths of planning is perfect. 7 would be a bit stressful if you are not completely organised because makeup/photographer/venues will start to get booked out. But ultimately, it really just depends on what dates your venue has free.

Post # 12
23 posts

Since your Fiance has expressed his desire to have his buddy be part of the wedding, just make sure the other groom and bride won’t be honeymooning around the time of your wedding. Some people delay when they leave for honeymoons, some people take super long honeymoons. So if you are doing it after their wedding, just rememebr to give them ample time to get back and be part of your festivites. If you’re doing it before, then the same goes for you. 

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