Post # 1
My Fiance and I had originally talked about marrying in October 2018. We wanted to take advantage of cooler temperatures, but now we are so excited to get married that we’ve decided we don’t want to wait that long.
We have not started the planning process yet.
FI’s good friend (FI is a groomsman) is getting married in May. If we were to get married earlier in the year, what is a respectable distance between the weddings? 1-2 months before or after?
Our wedding will be small and informal, so the wedding party won’t have to spend much money on the affair :).
Thanks for your advice!
Post # 2
As this isn’t family, I don’t think there are any real rules you need to follow. For family, a bigger gap is nice- so relatives don’t have to fly to an area twice in the same month or something like that. For your friends though, I think you’d be fine as long as it isn’t on the same day.
Since they are close friends, maybe check to see if they are going on a honeymoon right after their wedding and avoid the weekend right after their wedding, if they will be gone and you’d like them to be able to attend.
Post # 3
a few weeks. if you want them to attend your wedding, i would give them at least 2 weeks for their honeymoon. and same the other way. if you plan before and are going on a honeymoon, just make sure you are back in time since your Fiance is a groomsman.
Post # 4
I would say just a few weeks. It isn’t the same as family members getting married. It really won’t matter much at all unless you have a big guest overlap.
Post # 5
As long as it isn’t the same day you are free to pick whatever date you want. It is nice that you want to be thoughtful but there really is no need.
Post # 6
Thank you all! DH is the one who is more thoughtful than me (though I do care, don’t get me wrong), he wanted to not take away from his close friend’s big day…and he wants his friend to be in our wedding party.
I think we will try to keep at least a month one way or the other…if possible. We don’t share a whole lot of friends/family…but there are some mutual friends. That should give everybody a chance to breathe, vacation, relax in between.
I appreciate your advice so much!
Post # 7
I agree that the biggest thing to consider is honeymoon timing and making sure that whoever gets married first will be back and have time to adjust after the honeymoon before the next wedding.
Post # 8
One month either direction would be great. If you go for one month before I would get busy planning because vendors book up so quickly! We just set a date with our venue for next fall and got the very last Saturday available in 2018.
Post # 9
We got married one week after one of DH’s groomsmen did. They stood in each other’s weddings and it was no big deal. But, there were very few guests that were invited to both, and most of those guests lived in the area of both weddings, so travel wasn’t an issue. If you have a lot of overlap, I’d think a month would be sufficiently far apart.
Post # 10
I would do one month either way out of curtosy for them since they set their date first, but that’s me. I don’t think there are any “rules” per say…but at least a couple weeks IMO.
Post # 11
I know there are no “rules” but I would try to not set my wedding before theirs. A month after is fine. TBH I think 9mnths of planning is perfect. 7 would be a bit stressful if you are not completely organised because makeup/photographer/venues will start to get booked out. But ultimately, it really just depends on what dates your venue has free.
Post # 12
Since your Fiance has expressed his desire to have his buddy be part of the wedding, just make sure the other groom and bride won’t be honeymooning around the time of your wedding. Some people delay when they leave for honeymoons, some people take super long honeymoons. So if you are doing it after their wedding, just rememebr to give them ample time to get back and be part of your festivites. If you’re doing it before, then the same goes for you.