(Closed) change of groomsmen?

posted 7 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
6 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

Hi there,

Reading these boards, I’m somewhat relieved to know I’m not the only one getting seriously disappointed by some folks in preparation for my wedding. It’s amazing how people fail to meet even basic expectations (like being polite to your friend’s fiancee?). 


Anyways, I would totally vote for changing them. Couldn’t he just tell them straight up that it’s clear they’re not that into it so he’s doing them a favor relieving them of their duties? He can say he’s just making everyone happier – keep the tone light, and hopefully they’ll eventually realize they were in the wrong and offer an apology, even if it takes them a few months to cool off. 

Post # 4
3254 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Darling Husband originally asked his cousin and two of his friends; his friends were totally ready to go with their clothes, travel arrangements, etc. and he hadn’t heard from his cousin in literally months. He actually got to the point where he had to leave his cousin a voicemail telling him he wasn’t in the wedding. Obviously it wasn’t ideal, but what else do you do when someone refuses to answer calls, texts, e-mails, etc. for months at a time?

The cousin ended up calling Darling Husband a week before the wedding and apologizing; he blamed it all on his broken phone. Really? Interesting because his Facebook said he was updating from his phone all the time…

Anyways, I would vote that he should try to contact them and just seriously sit down with them and ask them if they want to be a part of this or not. If they don’t answer or aren’t interested, then they’re done. If they’re ready to shape up, then allow them to do so. 

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