(Closed) Change of heart after purchasing my gown

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Sunshine143:  Also a word of advice to you and every bride that has feelings of “keep looking” finding the dress is like finding the man, there will always be some small part that wonders if its “the dress” or “the man” but when you found him, you didn’t keep looking for a new husband, so stop looking for a new dress 😉

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I completely understand how you feel. About a month ago I purchased my gown and thought it was it. At the time I had the money to spend and I think it was just burning a hole in my pocket. Since then, I didn’t start looking but kept coming across other gowns during the wedding planning process (it’s almost impossible not to!) and realized I was having regrets. Of course there is always something better out there (and more expensive) but I wanted to feel 100% about mine. I went back to a couple places and tried on the style I had in mind and thought I had made a decision. I’m going to take a couple months off, maybe lose some weight, and go back on the hunt again when I am clear headed. I definitely realize how I rushed the first time and want to take my time this time! It would also help if I weren’t so darn indecisive.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

This is one reason why I’m glad I waited to get my dress until 6 months before my wedding. I love my dress, but I keep seeing others I love as well… but now i”m not tempted to look for a new one because I don’t have enough time to order it.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I have to say I completely agree with this…while some people manage to make peace with that first purchase, I think it depends on the bride.

 

I bought my first dress last year in Jan 2012, just a few short weeks after getting officially engaged and setting a date (was supposed to be in Sept 2012). That dress was beautiful….but it was not my dream dress AND it was for a different venue.

 

Once we rescheduled the date for June of this year, I started to get that feeling of lost love for it…tried it on, said ok I do love it, its gorgeous….but continued to have that nagging feeling all along. I chalked it up to just wanting that experience again (for background I bought the dress at a high end salon near me that I had a bit of a store credit at, that coupled with a verylimited budget at the time, I wasn’t able to try on any real lace gowns because they were out of my price range. The one I did try was heavy and didn’t fit me well at all. The dress I choose I was told by my entourage it looked stunning on me….and so I bought. Stupid me LOL)

 

That salon had a no refund or return policy, period end of story.

 

Fast forward to a month ago I decided to go try on dresses at another salon, and decided that this time I was going to ask for what I wanted regardless of price (mind you I have a lot more to spend this year, bow what a difference a year makes LOL)…and lo and behold I found THE gown of my dreams.

 

I have kicked myself about a dozen times for that first dress purchase…the excitement of it all def had me caught up and I bought way too quickly and will lose $ as a result of it.

 

My other piece of advice is don’t commit right away…I think most brides would do well to set a 3 store minimum before committing, this would save a lot of purchase and resale issues for many brides.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

one thing I will add too….how to know when you have found THE dress lol

 

I still look at gowns, because I love gowns, but nothing, I mean NOTHING compares to mine and I’ve seen some really gorgeous gowns out there (as we all have) that I’d love to have tried on, but the itch to find something better is now gone for me.

 

I never had that with my first gown purchase, so for me that says something and I’ve read of other brides that had something similar happen to them.

 

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Sunshine143:  yes, agreed. And funny thing is…had I saved myself the $ I spent on the first one, I’d be $500+ ahead right now plus not have the headache of trying to resell a dress (and deal with scammers trying to steal it LOL, ugh such a pain!)

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Sunshine143:  I completely agree! The dress is pretty important to me and its a one time only thing. No do-overs. I want to feel “wow” as I am walking down the aisle, you know? I’ve got my current gown up for sale right now so I am hoping I can sell it. What screwed me is that I had NO idea most bridal stores have you put down a 50% deposit and not pay for the whole thing up front. Had I known that, I may be in a different situation now!

Post # 15
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Wannabee

This is my DREAM dress! What size did you order? I’m very interested in buying if you decide to sell!

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