(Closed) Change of heart on who walks me down the aisle

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 2
52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Hi so sorry about losing your dog. That’s horrible and I am really sad that happened. I wouldn’t make any decisions yet. I do think what he said was insensitive and hurtful on your shower day. That’s really awful and you did not deserve that. However if this was the only time he’s ever behaved this way, then maybe there’s something else going on…not related to you. I can’t imagine he really feels that way, maybe it’s a defense especially if he’s feeling guilty. Regardless, I wouldn’t make any decisions yet. just sit with it for a little bit and see if he comes around. If you’ve normally had a close relationship and this is a new thing, then move past it

Post # 3
7639 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I had some sympathy for your uncle until that last “little bitch” outburst. He was irresponsible with your dog and made a tragic mistake, but you could perhaps get past that if he was genuinely sorry. But he’s not.

Walk alone. 

Post # 4
732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Walk alone.  Anyone who calls you obscenities like that isn’t the person you need for this right now.

Post # 5
367 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I’d walk alone. 

But it’s probably not going to go well to tell your uncle you don’t want him to walk you,  judging from his behaviour. 

Talk to your dad about it and your reasoning for wanting to walk alone,  it may sound better coming from his brother,  especially if your dad agrees that he shouldn’t walk you down. 

I just wouldn’t want to cause a family rift for something that would only be a minute or two of the wedding. 

Good luck bee 🙂 

Post # 6
2394 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

If it were me, I wouldn’t tell my uncle he wasn’t walking me down the aisle. He would have to figure it out, after not receiving an invitation to the wedding at all.

Seriously, I would tell him he isn’t walking me down the aisle anymore, because of the incident with my dog. Don’t speak about the issue anymore or listen to any excuses. Then don’t invite him to the wedding. Let it be known through the grapevine, it is because of his behavior about the dog.

Then cut him out of your life. That is what I would do!

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