Post # 1
anyone have any idea if its practical to try to change your name before your honeymoon? i’m taking my honeymoon 4 weeks after the wedding, but that doesnt seem like enough time to finish all the paperwork and esp to get a new passport (we are going international). am i supposed to hold off on all name changing until after the honeymoon?
Post # 3
Everything I’ve read says not to change it before your honeymoon. Your maiden name could be on certain travel documents, hotels and airline tickets.
And from what I remember about the passport issue last year, they don’t necessarily come in when you want them to.
Post # 4
it would be very tight especially because you have to wait to recieve your marriage certificate first. when i got my name change done, i received everything sooner than i was told. however, for your passport you would have to expedite it (which is a bit more expensive) and i think it still takes about 3 weeks… which could be pushing it a little. if it were me, i would probably wait until i got back just to be on the safe side.
Post # 5
i would wait until afterwards as to avoid any issues such having not yet received your new passport. 4 weeks would be okay if you didn’t need a passport for your honeymoon…
Post # 6
This could be different depending on what state you’re in… but I thought that when you write your new name on the marriage license, that’s effectively requesting the name change–doesn’t that mean things are basically in process once you’ve gotten married anyway?
How exactly do you put it off?
We’re planning on going on our honeymoon 4 months after the wedding…I’m not sure if everything will arrive by then either. Especially since we really need to buy our tickets around the time of the wedding (we’re going to Israel so to get good prices you have to buy early)…
Post # 7
I wouldn’t risk it. The passport process is HUGELY backed up due to new requirements for travel to Mexico and Canada. Better to wait until there is no rush in case anything gets fouled up along the way. Remember, you’ll be dealing with multiple state and federal departments.
Post # 8
Your marriage license is the legal document that you need to change your name (otherwise you need a petition for change of name). However I know girls who have waited over a year to change all their legal docs. There was a blog about super expedited name change – you can hurry up the process of the marriage certificate filing by hand carrying it to the county clerk. You used to be able to get a passport very quickly (with appropriate fees) in a port of entry – which does you no good unless you live in San Francisco or New York I think. And I believe the passport system is still all messed up as far as how long its taking.
Your passport and other photo ID (drivers’ license) do need to match each other, and the name on your plane tickets, or you will end up having lots of trouble with the wonderful folks at the airlines and Homeland Security.
I think given your timeframe you probably have two choices – either wait until you get back; file a petition for legal name change before your marriage and get all the paperwork change started (will cost you about an extra $60 and your time – I think you have to appear before a judge).
Post # 9
i appreciate all your input and it sounds like the easiest thing to do is to just wait until after the honeymoon to start the name change process. that being said, i’m still worried that my name will be legally changed as soon as the marriage license gets sent to the city clerk by my officiant (i believe that it is required to be returned within only a few days of the ceremony). if that’s the case, then is my passport and credit card with my maiden name still valid?
Post # 10
In Washington State, the bride signs her maiden name on the marriage certificate. This does not change her name in any way, and only means that they are legally married. This allows a bride either change or not change her name after the wedding.
For example, I didn’t change my name until almost a year after the wedding. Everything was still valid because the marriage license only decreed that I was married, not that I was changing my name.
Post # 11
I think updating your Social Security card is the biggie on the name change. You have to do that to move forward in other processes.
Some places let you call and change your name over the phone – others you have to mail in paperwork. I’d make a list of what things you would need changed for your trip and research the time those things take. (Mariage Certificate, SS Card, License, CC’s, and Passport)
If you are just updating your name on your passport – that might be much faster than applying for a new one. Again I don’t know the answer to that.
I’ve been married for almost 10 months now and most things have been updated – but I always keep a copy of my marriage license (I’d pay for a couple extras when you pick this up) in my purse just in case I need proof of either name.
I’m pretty sure you could book your airline ticket in your maiden name and keep your password in your maiden name and fly with no troubles. Even if you do start the name change process with the other stuff. I know people who forget to update the passport – then need to fly quickly (even after being married for years) so they just book the flight in the maiden name and voila 🙂
Post # 12
PS – Don’t take my word on that last part – I’d call someone official to double check if that’s your plan 🙂 I’m not official!
Post # 13
Jilian is correct – your plane ticket, passport, and any other photo ID that you use at the airport have to match.
If you have had your current passport less than a year, there is a small fee to change your name on your passport – but you do have to send your passport and your marriage certificate off just as if you were getting a new passport. The processing time is essentially the same. If you have had your current passport longer than a year, you have to apply for a whole new passport (although the process is the same, just the fee is different). For all official identification (drivers’ license, social security card, passport, and any professional licenses) you need to provide in person or mail in paperwork – generally an official copy rather than a xerox copy, so you will need several copies of your marriage license. For things like credit cards you can generally name change over the phone.
To find out exactly where to go and what the process is for each form of ID, you just need to find the appropriate website and generally the instructions are right there. However, the process is different for EVERY form of ID.
Also, filing your marriage license doesn’t to anything to automatically change your name. You will have to bring an official copy of your marriage license actually to the DMV, County Clerks’ office, SS Office (and send one away with your passport) and officially request the name change. They don’t have access to it – you have to provide it. The process isn’t automatic, and does not cascade through the system – you have to request separately with every form of ID (and pay a separate fee to every bureau).