(Closed) Change of name

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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1549 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I don’t mind the idea of having a new name, but it does seem like so much work. Contacting the SS office, the DMV, all my credit cards, everything to do with my work, my insurance, my car note, ugh. I think I will do it though, but I’m not looking forward to it.

Post # 4
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100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m not changing my name, mostly because I’m lazy and it sounds like a lot of work. ๐Ÿ™‚ Like you, I have been using my name forever professionally, and being addressed as something else would be jarring to me. My fiance was a little surprised when I let him know I wasn’t changing my name legally, but I don’t think it bothers him any more. He jokingly asked that I at least change the name on my magazine subscriptions. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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105 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I’m changing my name and I totally understand why its upseting you a little.  I find that the idea kinda weirds me out, but I know in the end i want to do it.  I think it’s only a natural feeling, you’ve lived your life as Miss. SoandSo..so you identify with that name.  Since I’m still feeling a little uncomfortable with it, I’ve been trying to bring it up more in conversation, (with my Bridesmaid or Best Man or FI) just so i start getting used to the idea.  Fiance have started joking about it, and the more I talk about it the more it feels right.

Post # 6
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1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i’m changing my name but will most likely use my maiden name “unoifficially” for work since so i have a lot of past contacts under that name and some stuff published under my maiden name. i’ll be sad to let it go but i know that i want to change it. Fiance and i both have last names very generic to our cultures…mine screams jewish, his screams italian. i’ll miss it but i’m sure i’ll move on. (keeping my maiden name as a middle name isn’t really an option…i already have two names in one for a first name, and my new last name is fairly long, so i just can’t deal with any extra syllables on top of that)

Post # 7
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351 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I was having issues with changing my name. My “maiden” name was very greek sounding (dad came over from Greece), so I liked that by my last name, you could easily tell my origin. New last name doesn’t sound ethnic at all. I wanted to keep my maiden name as a new middle name, but my husband didn’t like the idea of this, and I don’t blame him. So I’ve just dropped my maiden name all together and took husbands last name. I’m glad I did, I like that we share the same last name now, and look forward to expanding the A**** family! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m not changing my last name.  I was never planning on it and I don’t think that I love my Fiance any less or don’t respect his family name or anything.  It’s just that changing my last name wasn’t even a thought for me – I was never going to do it.

However, I will make like dinner reservations and probably refer to myself as Mrs. So-and-so under casual circumstances. ๐Ÿ™‚ It’s just formally, I will still retain my maiden name.

*EDIT*  I just wanted to quickly add that we’re not planning on having children so we were never going to be one of those families where it was like, “Meet the So-and-so Family” lol.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Lassroyale:  I’m with you.  I’ve always known I wanted to keep my name.  When I started thinking about it, I realized the idea of doing it pretty much bothered me on every possible level.  My fiance cared in that he would prefer me to change it, which made me feel a little bad that I was missing this opportunity to do something nice for him but in the end only solidified how important it was for me to keep my own name.

Though we use my name, generally, for dinner reservations.  It’s memorable, impossible to mispronounce, and easy to spell.

@snowybride:  Do what you want.  Remember that it’s your choice and nobody else’s.  I think a lot of people feel uncomfortable with the idea of change or the paperwork but do ultimately want to change their name.  Others feel uncomforatble because it’s not the right decision for them.  The ONLY important thing is figuring out where your thoughts and feelings lie and making your decision based on that.

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