change of plans :(

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 46
10597 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

piglet0422 :  

We hear this bs a lot, Bee.  He wants to buy a house first.  And I always wonder.  Could any of these guys qualify to buy a house on their own income and credit or do they need their partners’ to get them into the houses they want?

Cynical, I know.  But, worthy of consideration before you make such an enormous investment.

I wouldn’t recommend it, Bee.  You’re nowhere close to marriage and how can you trust him if, someday, he suddenly says he is ready?

I have just got to start reading the entire thread before I hit the buzzer.

Good for you, Bee!  Thank you for the update!

Post # 47
1927 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Edited now that I’ve seend your update. Good for you!

Post # 49
3946 posts
Honey bee

I’m glad you found the strength to leave him. He was never going to marry you and after the way he behaved with the ring I’m sure he’s not quality material. Glad you’re happy now.

Post # 50
3832 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

What a powerful update! Good job piglet0422 !!

Post # 51
1432 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI

Congratulations on doing the hard thing!  You’ll be so much happier and you’ll find the one who can’t wait to marry you.

Post # 52
1123 posts
Bumble bee

That is wonderful. You are now a role model for all those other women who are currently going through what you went through. They can use your example to see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Post # 54
1236 posts
Bumble bee

piglet0422 :  that’s great news! I’m also curious what was his reaction when you wanted to break up and whether he tried to get back toggether.

Post # 56
83 posts
Worker bee

azf0019 :   I would be interested in how he took the break up, too, if that’s OK. Just out of curiosity. My exes would bring up the possibility of a break up quite a lot during our relationship, but when I eventually left them, they were always VERY surprised and couldn’t believe it. It was OK for them to threaten me with a break up on a regular basis (to basically keep me in check), but when I broke up with them, suddenly their egos couldn’t take it and they didn’t believe that it was the end. 

Post # 57
448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Happy for you Bee.  It takes alot of strength to do what you did.  I wish you all the best and pray you find the man that you deserve.

Post # 58
6391 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

I’m so happy for you!

Post # 60
217 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

Are you me?! Can completely relate to this in so many ways. So glad it worked out well for you =)

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