Post # 46
We hear this bs a lot, Bee. He wants to buy a house first. And I always wonder. Could any of these guys qualify to buy a house on their own income and credit or do they need their partners’ to get them into the houses they want?
Cynical, I know. But, worthy of consideration before you make such an enormous investment.
I wouldn’t recommend it, Bee. You’re nowhere close to marriage and how can you trust him if, someday, he suddenly says he is ready?
I have just got to start reading the entire thread before I hit the buzzer.
Good for you, Bee! Thank you for the update!
Post # 47
Edited now that I’ve seend your update. Good for you!
Post # 48
I have did leave him last year. I got my own apartment and got my self confidence back. I always thought I wasn’t good enough for him. That I needed him in my life to make me happy and to start living life. I’m so happy with my life right now. Without him. I didn’t need him after all. I’m with a man who really makes me happy and appreciates me.
Things happen for a reason. You just have to get back up and move on
Post # 49
I’m glad you found the strength to leave him. He was never going to marry you and after the way he behaved with the ring I’m sure he’s not quality material. Glad you’re happy now.
Post # 50
What a powerful update! Good job piglet0422 !!
Post # 51
- Wedding: March 2021 - Kauai, HI
Congratulations on doing the hard thing! You’ll be so much happier and you’ll find the one who can’t wait to marry you.
Post # 52
That is wonderful. You are now a role model for all those other women who are currently going through what you went through. They can use your example to see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
Post # 53
piglet0422 : how did he react when you broke up with him??
Post # 54
piglet0422 : that’s great news! I’m also curious what was his reaction when you wanted to break up and whether he tried to get back toggether.
Post # 56
azf0019 : I would be interested in how he took the break up, too, if that’s OK. Just out of curiosity. My exes would bring up the possibility of a break up quite a lot during our relationship, but when I eventually left them, they were always VERY surprised and couldn’t believe it. It was OK for them to threaten me with a break up on a regular basis (to basically keep me in check), but when I broke up with them, suddenly their egos couldn’t take it and they didn’t believe that it was the end.
Post # 57
Happy for you Bee. It takes alot of strength to do what you did. I wish you all the best and pray you find the man that you deserve.
Post # 59
He took it really really bad. I’ve tried leaving him twice before already and even told him how unhappy I was in the relationship. His response was the I was only going through a “phase” and that I will get over it. He wouldn’t let me leave him. But I think I was also too weak to leave at that time.
This time, he was very surprised. He tried getting me back so many times. In the beginning i almost caved to be honest. I thought about all those years we had and just settle. But no. I stood my ground. I was choosing MY happiness this time. He blew up my phone for 3-4 months straight. After his surprise, he became really really nasty. He got in contact with most of my family and even coworkers and friends and was talking so much shit about me. It got so ugly. After that, he tried manipulation. Would tell me no one would understand me like he does. Love me like he does. That I can’t do better. It was such a Rollercoaster. But now, I am in a much better place. He’s left me alone finally and I’m so happy. I’ve met a man who treats me so well and makes me so happy. Didn’t know love could be this good.
Post # 60
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
Are you me?! Can completely relate to this in so many ways. So glad it worked out well for you =)