- 9 years ago
Yes, horrible faux pas. My SO and I have been planning on attending a wedding of a friend of his for the last year. We’ve talked about it again and again, and everytime we talked about October 20th. A few weeks ago the invitations arrived and the mister RSVP’d yes for both of us (he’s so good!) and we thought nothing of it. Mind you, I don’t live with him, so I didn’t see said invite. Well, we were talking about our weekend plans for the next month or so, and he said he was coming home for October 10th (we’re in a LDR). I said “great! you’re coming to my cousin’s bday party!” And he said, “No, for the weddding.” As it turns out the wedding is on the 10th and not the 20th.
In the meantime, I’ve been brought on to help plan my cousin’s surprise party. She’s not just a cousin, she’s basically my sister and my best friend, to be clear. It’s her 25th birthday and her boyfriend decided he wanted to throw a big party to celebrate. And, the party is on October 10th (shocker, I know). So here I am, either a rude guest or a bad sister. I want to be friends with the bride and groom in the future–he’s my SO’s good friend from college and I think she’s great, plus, I would love to be friends with other Army wives. On the other hand, I love my cousin and I don’t want to upset her. So I’ve decided to ask my SO to call the couple and let them know that I will not be able to attend. Ugh, I’m sorry if that’s offensive to anyone planning a wedding but I don’t know what else I could do. (The party is in CT and the wedding is in VA, so there’s no splitting it up.)
Anyway, I would like to do something nice for the bride and groom, because I really am disappointed that I can’t go. (Kinda still hoping something happens and I can go, but that’s not gonna happen.) Any ideas? If you were disappointed by guests changing their response last minute, is there anything you wish they would have done or said?