Change of plans: wedding guest list

posted 11 months ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

If asked, say that budget constraints meant you had to have a much smaller wedding with just the closest family. (Tell the most gossipy person in each group that, if necessary.) But definitely have the smaller wedding you want and can afford.

Why did all these other people get involved in making your guest list? It should have been you and finace.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 1983

It’s your wedding (unless they’re paying for it, in which case you’ve got trouble and should pay for it yourselves). Therefore, you get to have the number of guests you’re comfortable with and invite the people you want. No one else gets any say whatever.

The smaller wedding sounds so much nicer to me.

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

It’s your wedding and you have final say, but there is no way around people getting upset or having their feelings hurt when you’ve told them about it and implied that they are invited. Does the initial 130 guests that you had listed not work for you anymore?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

We had to seriously reduce our guest list because it was getting outrageous! We didn’t invite any cousins (except for 1 who was in my wedding party) It was absolutely insane. We ended up just saying that we needed to reduce it because of budgetary constraints. And once we did that, we didn’t take any requests from anyone. 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - The Edge of Webster

I don’t think this tip would help for a 300 person wedding, but my fiance and I told our parents that anyone they wanted to invite beyond our list, they had to cover the costs for. I think they understood, and from what I can tell, they haven’t really invited anyone extra (although I know his mom had a few people in the beginning that she was thinking about).

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