(Closed) Change Venues 4 Months Out?!

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
47456 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999


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moviegoer23:  I would change venues, more specifically officiants. I believe he intentionally misled you so the two of you would choose to be married in his church.

I have no idea where you live. Are there any Unitarian Churches nearby? They are much more flexibile and accepting of all, and it would at least be a church wedding to please your Future Mother-In-Law.

If not, and you can’t find another church, are you able to hold the ceremony at the reception venue? Or is there a venue that might be meaningful for the two of you but also to his family? Sometimes you have to be creative. A chapel at a university, a hospital , or army base, in an old school- something that is outside the box/

What is near you?

Post # 3
1754 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

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moviegoer23:  I would move.  I know it’s stressful, but this is YOUR wedding.  This is not the officiant’s wedding, and he is going way beyond what a typical officiant or even a religious leader demands during a ceremony.  Your wedding ceremony at this church is about to be completely something you wish you could forget, which isn’t how it should be.

Are FI’s parents paying?  If not, they have no say.  They’ll throw a hissy fit, but they’ll come to the wedding at the new location and get over it.

Post # 4
1904 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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moviegoer23:  change to a church you and your Fiance wish to attend. Stop looking to his family for permission! 

If his family is paying towards the wedding? If so, kindly thank them but let them know that you will be paying for the wedding YOU TWO wish to have at the church of our choice. 

This is a decision for only you and your Fiance to make. Stop allowing his family to control your wedding. Otherwise, they will control where you live, what color to paint your house, and what to name your children.

Stop drinking the guilt trip kool aid. This isn’t the wedding they never had…this is your wedding.

  • This reply was modified 5 years, 3 months ago by  BrideK2Wings. Reason: Typos

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