- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
The past couple of weeks have been a little crazy. After talking to my parents and my closest out of state friends, it turned out a much smaller number of guests from my side would be able to come due to costs and/or job issues. That’s fine, and I don’t hold it against them at all. However it touched off a mini-breakdown about how pathetic I would look to his side (almost all local or very close by) and how empty the venue would look. On top of that, our venue decided to choose this time period to stop responding to any of our attempts for contact.
Fiance saw how my mental state beginning to crumble over this, and we had a long talk about it. The end result was that I began looking for a new venue. Unfortunately, every decent venue within our price and geographical range was already taken for the 20th, so we had to consider changing our date as well. *Cue financial freak out* Then the universe changed our luck for the better.
My mother called in the middle of the day on a weekday, which she usually doesn’t do, to tell me my parents are insisting on gifting us a nice sum of money – no ifs, ands, or buts! We had discussed it before since they had dangled the money above my head to try and entice us into getting married with a Catholic priest, and I told them no thanks. They reconsidered all on their own and felt bad for trying to basically blackmail us into something we didn’t want, and they want us to have the money with no strings attached. She even went so far as to explain to me that this money was from a separate savings account than either their living or retirement expenses, so I wouldn’t really be taking anything away from them. The gift allows us to write off the deposit on the original venue and then some! Good thing #1.
At this point, I was praying and wishing with all of my might that our photographer, whom we had already fully paid for due to a voucher type deal, and our baker, with whom we had completely fallen in love, could make a date switch. I emailed them both and received prompt yes replies to a few possible dates! Good things #2 and #3.
I contacted a beach venue that I had previously loved but was out of our price range. They weren’t available for our original date BUT were wide open for our first date/proposal date anniversary, which is a Sunday but obviously meaningful to us. Also, they were running a special for summer events and cutting the minimum required spending by 40%!! Good thing #4.
This past weekend, we met with the beach venue, signed papers, and scheduled a tasting. All of that happened inside of nine days. I still can’t believe it. I am not exaggerating when I say I’ve never ever had such a great run of luck for such big stakes. Makes me think we should have gone to Vegas when it all turned out! I was happy about the wedding before, but now I’m completely over the moon.
(Of course I was always over the moon about getting married to the love of my life, but the wedding day was just a series of big compromises but no longer!)