- 3 years ago
So bees here i am again for your advice. This place has been very good to me previously so i thought i would give it another shot.
Ive been with my Fiance ten years. Hes a good guy and i do love him.
We are both 27 and have 1 child. We also lost a child 6 years ago in sudden circumstances im only adding this for context.
Fiance mother died last year after a short illness. She was a great woman a young woman and she did not deserve what happened to her. It really was awful and the poor family are just so upset over everything. It breaks my heart and i would do ANYTHING to take their pain away. All of them not just Fiance
So heres my problem. He has always been a little off as in kind of rude and not very communicative. I accepted this. I love him so i just got on with it. But since his mother got sick he has been so rude to me. He can completely ignore me. He may not answer calls or texts. He has been staying out until 5am once or twice a month. I know that he is with his friends but he wont tell me where he is.
He always goes to work even if he is out untill all hours. I feel he really does not respect me anymore.
We were at a family function a week ago and he passed a remark in front of my father (who loves him) he was not impressed.
He makes comments about me, such as “are you stupid?”
He turns his back to me and interrupts me when i am speaking. He often does not respond when i ask him something
This all came to a head 2 days ago. He came home at 5am again drunk and i would not let him in the house. I had text him to ask him where hevwas and he wouldnt reply. When i asked him where he was his response was “what the fuck does it matter to you”. I gave him a bag of his things and he left. He came back last night and i did not let him in. I knew he only wanted to take a shower and go out again. He then went out with his friends again and got drunk.
Just to be clear when i did not let him in he rang me and screamed down the phone “open the fucking door”.
I know this sounds bad but it is not the way it always is. It has been like this for about 8 months but not constantly
We are due to get married in 6 months. My question is do i let him in tonight of he comes? Hes been so angry the last few nights that i think he needs to stay away for a while anyway. I am not afraid of him just so you know
So bees any outside perspective would be great? Do i end this for good? I feel i should but i ned some outside perspective. Am i cruel to end this months after hos mothers death?