(Closed) Changed Friendships with Bridal Party Post Wedding????

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
33 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m still in the wedding planning process and already feel like 2 of my BMs don’t really care about helping or what so ever.  I think I’ll be much closer to my other friends that are already married.  I’ve one married friend in the bridal party and she’s been very understanding (although she didn’t have a traditional american wedding).  I think most single bridesmaid that haven’t been through their own wedding, it’s hard for them to understand little things like how they can help and it comes off as inconsiderate.

I think for me, it’ll be a bit hard to remain good friends with one of my single friend that are a bit inconsiderate (she actually got annoyed when I asked if she has another availability to try on Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses.  I was okay to go any day, but wanted all BMs to go on the same day.  As a result of her inflexibility, I’m now scheduling two appointments with two different BMs.  I’m also paying for the dresses, so all she needs to do is to show up and try on the dress.  She also doesn’t live far from the salon).

I wish it could bring us closer, but I guess it’s just things you can’t force it!



Post # 4
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

No, I didn’t have any problems. I think it’s a combo of two things.

First, I only asked the ladies I really wanted. I think sometimes brides feel guilted into asking people and have problems later.

Second, I didn’t expect too much from them. I paid for almost everything for them (hotels, travel, hair) and didn’t ask them to do anything else other than come on my wedding day. I gave them a color and they chose thier own dresses. I didn’t ask them for any planning help. They were such amazing bms and threw me a fun bachelorette party but I didn’t expect it.

I def had other stressers during the wedding planning process but I was lucky that my girls weren’t one of them! 

Post # 5
148 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

For my own wedding I had a lovely time with my 4 bridesmaids. My Maid/Matron of Honor made my dress so there was potential for tension there but I think our friendship really shone through. If anything I feel closer to them!

I wish I could say the same for one of the other wedding parties I had been part of.

This bride was a bridezilla. I had known her from high school and she had always had drama in her life – some legitimate, others self-imposed. I was her Maid/Matron of Honor and at the time we were really close. She tripled her wedding budget, threatened the invitation vendor with lawyers and had some very unrealistic expectations. On the wedding day she took hours of photos, leaving us to fend for ourselves for food, had a massive fight with her brother at the reception and used swear words to describe her new father in law to her new husband (“Your f*cking father” to be exact). It was so bad the MC looked nervous and asked us if the groom knew what he was in for.

Needless to say our relationship changed but it was going that way anyway. I slowly stopped talking to her. I got engaged a year later and we were just texting by then. In the end I did not even invite her to my own wedding, 18 months later.

I am glad she is no longer in my life but I am sad that I am in all her wedding photos as a close and trusting friend. I signed her marriage certificate and we don’t even talk anymore.





Post # 6
866 posts
Busy bee

I had 7 bridesmaids and didn’t have a problem with any of them. I think people put too much expectation on their maids. most of my girls didn’t really do anything other than get their dress and come with love on the day of my wedding. that was all I wanted from them though, was to have them by my side as i celebrated. I think people run into problems when they expect their maids to be really active in the planning and execution of the wedding itself.

Post # 7
1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

It seems like bm’s today have a lot of responsibilities.  I was a bridesmaid once, in the mid-eighties, and I went to the bridal shower and wedding (too young for bachelorette).  The bride was pretty strict about hairstyles, but that was it.

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