Changed mind on ring, need reassurance I'm not a horrible person

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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6441 posts
Bee Keeper

allie127 :  It’s your ring.  It’s the one on your finger for the rest of your life. I’m sure she’ll let you transfer the money to the Edwardian.

Post # 3
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1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I wouldn’t normally say this, but I think you should change your ring ASAP! It sounds like you and your Fiance picked your ring out together with your jeweler anyway, so I think you should trust your heart and don’t second guess yourself! If you can see yourself wearing the Edwardian ring for your whole life, then perhaps it is the ring for you. 

Post # 4
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5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

allie127 :  Why would you feel guilty??? I’d change it up stat and get what I want/like.

Post # 5
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2923 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

allie127 :  I don’t think it’s a bit deal at all if you want the Edwardian ring instead.  You only put the other on layaway; I don’t think it would be difficult to change that.  Don’t overthink it. smile

Post # 6
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5532 posts
Bee Keeper

There is zero guilt here.. guilt is for people that do bad things on purpose.. let’s be clear 😀  you changed your mind.. NOT a big deal.  Get what you love and be happy 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy bee

It sounds like you really love the diamond solitaire one, but you’re afraid of the interaction with the jeweler.  I would talk to the jeweler!  I’m sure she’ll be happy if you’re happy.  Plus, she’ll still be making money regardless of which one you end up with, so I can’t imagine she’ll be too upset with you switching your mind!  The diamond solitaire you posted is absolutely amazing!

Post # 8
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263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

allie127 :  Just be honest and tell her that you changed your mind. You said you have a long relationship with her so I’m sure she will understand. Don’t feel guilty at all! You’re still purchasing a ring from her, it’s not like she spent all that time finding the sapphire ring and you decided to buy from somewhere else instead. Don’t overthink it, you should get the one that you love most.

Post # 9
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2644 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

It’s only on layway, I don’t see why there should be any issue switching the amount you’ve put on it so far onto the other ring, it’s not like it’s been altered for you or anything has it?

Post # 10
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1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I would 100% switch to the Edwardian one!

Post # 11
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1815 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I would definitely switch to the Edwardian one. I love it!! 

Post # 12
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1739 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

allie127 :  You are not a bad person and you shouldn’t feel guilty! You deserve a ring that makes your heart flutter. Go with your gut and get your forever ring!! xoxo

Post # 13
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1127 posts
Bumble bee

Of course not! Changing your mind about a ring doesn’t make you a band person! It’s going to be your ring forever, and I’m sure she will understand that!! I personally prefer the Edwardian ring over the sapphire ring although both are beautiful. Do what makes you happy, you don’t want to regret going with a ring your not happy with just so your friend/Jeweler doesn’t get mad. I really don’t think she will be mad anyway, just tell her how your feeling. 

Post # 14
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1853 posts
Buzzing bee

The ring is on layaway,it technically hasn’t been purchased so it’s not like you are returning it and the dealer is loosing money because you plan to spend it elsewhere. You simply want to transfer the spent money to another of her items. This shouldn’t be an issue you do.Go with your heart,it knows what it wants. It’s better to swap it now for what you want rather than live with the sapphire and never be satisfied or constantly compare the ring you have to the ring you long for. No guilt should be felt.

Post # 15
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469 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

allie127 :  I don’t see any problem with you changing your mind in this situation. Both rings are lovely, but you need to get the one that you can see yourself wearing for the rest of your life. I don’t think she will be upset since it’s not like you are going elsewhere for the ring you love. You will still be purchasing from her and it’s a win-win for both of you! I say go for it! 🙂

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