Post # 1
Okay, so. I have a very good, years-long relationship with an estate/antique jewelry dealer who I’m going through for my ring. I had asked her to help me find one, and the one she came up with is gorgeous (albeit not antique, which was kind of a big deal on my list of things I was looking for in a ring). Pics at the end of the post. It’s beautiful, and I put it on layaway in December. Since then, though, my mind (and heart) keep wandering back to this amazing Edwardian solitaire that she’s had in stock for forever that I looked at as a RHR before I got engaged (ended up getting myself a necklace instead). I feel guilty thinking about changing my mind on her, but when I picture me and my fiancée holding hands when we’re 80, or me playing with our future kids, I picture the Edwardian one on my hand, not the modern sapphire. How guilty should I be feeling about changing my mind, here? It boils down to what feels “right,” right? Anyone else waffle and change their mind because the initial choice didn’t feel right once you sat with the decision awhile? The sapphire is the one I’ve got on layaway now; the diamond solitaire is a ring VERY similar to the one I’m kind of hopelessly in love with (except in yellow gold – I like both gold types equally).
Post # 2
allie127 : It’s your ring. It’s the one on your finger for the rest of your life. I’m sure she’ll let you transfer the money to the Edwardian.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t normally say this, but I think you should change your ring ASAP! It sounds like you and your Fiance picked your ring out together with your jeweler anyway, so I think you should trust your heart and don’t second guess yourself! If you can see yourself wearing the Edwardian ring for your whole life, then perhaps it is the ring for you.
Post # 4
allie127 : Why would you feel guilty??? I’d change it up stat and get what I want/like.
Post # 5
allie127 : I don’t think it’s a bit deal at all if you want the Edwardian ring instead. You only put the other on layaway; I don’t think it would be difficult to change that. Don’t overthink it.
Post # 6
There is zero guilt here.. guilt is for people that do bad things on purpose.. let’s be clear 😀 you changed your mind.. NOT a big deal. Get what you love and be happy 🙂
Post # 7
It sounds like you really love the diamond solitaire one, but you’re afraid of the interaction with the jeweler. I would talk to the jeweler! I’m sure she’ll be happy if you’re happy. Plus, she’ll still be making money regardless of which one you end up with, so I can’t imagine she’ll be too upset with you switching your mind! The diamond solitaire you posted is absolutely amazing!
Post # 8
allie127 : Just be honest and tell her that you changed your mind. You said you have a long relationship with her so I’m sure she will understand. Don’t feel guilty at all! You’re still purchasing a ring from her, it’s not like she spent all that time finding the sapphire ring and you decided to buy from somewhere else instead. Don’t overthink it, you should get the one that you love most.
Post # 9
It’s only on layway, I don’t see why there should be any issue switching the amount you’ve put on it so far onto the other ring, it’s not like it’s been altered for you or anything has it?
Post # 10
I would 100% switch to the Edwardian one!
Post # 11
I would definitely switch to the Edwardian one. I love it!!
Post # 12
allie127 : You are not a bad person and you shouldn’t feel guilty! You deserve a ring that makes your heart flutter. Go with your gut and get your forever ring!! xoxo
Post # 13
Of course not! Changing your mind about a ring doesn’t make you a band person! It’s going to be your ring forever, and I’m sure she will understand that!! I personally prefer the Edwardian ring over the sapphire ring although both are beautiful. Do what makes you happy, you don’t want to regret going with a ring your not happy with just so your friend/Jeweler doesn’t get mad. I really don’t think she will be mad anyway, just tell her how your feeling.
Post # 14
The ring is on layaway,it technically hasn’t been purchased so it’s not like you are returning it and the dealer is loosing money because you plan to spend it elsewhere. You simply want to transfer the spent money to another of her items. This shouldn’t be an issue you do.Go with your heart,it knows what it wants. It’s better to swap it now for what you want rather than live with the sapphire and never be satisfied or constantly compare the ring you have to the ring you long for. No guilt should be felt.
Post # 15
allie127 : I don’t see any problem with you changing your mind in this situation. Both rings are lovely, but you need to get the one that you can see yourself wearing for the rest of your life. I don’t think she will be upset since it’s not like you are going elsewhere for the ring you love. You will still be purchasing from her and it’s a win-win for both of you! I say go for it! 🙂