Post # 1
Did any of you have changes to your Guest List between the time you sent Save the Dates and Invitations?
I’m talking BOTH adding and removing people.
We have this one friend who was on the “B” list. It’s a weird situation, but basically, we’re friends with both him and his brother, but we’re closer with him. His brother is getting married to another girl we know, but we’re not invited to their wedding. We were originally thinking of inviting both of them, but then when we found out we weren’t invited to theirs, we scratched them off our list. We didn’t know how to invite the one brother and not the other, when we’re technically friends with both. We didn’t send him a STD, but we were thinking if we had the room, to send him an invitation when those go out.
Post # 3
I don’t think you really can remove people unless there is a “real” reason (I’m talking huge falling out type of reason) but, adding people shouldn’t be a problem. And I also don’t think you should take offense or invite/not invite based on being invited to someone else’s wedding. Everyone has different budgets and size limitations. There are people invited to my wedding that without a doubt wouldn’t be invited if my venue didn’t make me sign for a minimum of 150 guests. If they decided to get married and only had the budget/space for 80 guests and I wasn’t invited I would understand. Also, even if their wedding budget/space is larger than yours maybe they have a huge family that takes up most of that space. That’s why you can’t really invite based off of that.
Post # 4
Yes, I only sent Save-The-Date Cards to people I REALLY wanted to save the date. Those folks that were a bit on the fence, and I wanted to see where our relationship went, or “courtesy invtes” that I didn’t want to give too much time to make arrangements did not.
Once you send out a STD to someone, you can’t take it back, so it’s definitely something to give careful consideration.
Post # 5
You can certainly send an invite to someone who did not get an STD but if you sent a STD then you must send an invite.
I’m not sure why you would disinvite someone because they did not invite you to their wedding–since you are planning your own, you should be sympathetic to budget, space and family guest list issues. Sadly, for many people, their personal friends tend to be on the bottom of the list and have to be cut. I’m inviting at least 2 couples who did not invite us to their wedding. They simply could not afford to invite everyone they wanted to in addition to everyone they had to–it wasn’t personal.