Changes in relationship from living together to married

posted 5 months ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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1679 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

We didn’t live together before we got married. I think that going from dating to being married didn’t really change other than that we spend a lot more time together then when we were dating 

Post # 17
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1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2018 - The Venue, Barkisland, UK

We’ve been a couple for almost 13 years, living together for almost 3 years, and married for almost 3 weeks.

I’ve definitely noticed a subtle shift in my view of the relationship recently, but I think that comes from me changing as a person (practising mindfulness mainly, and probably growing up a bit too given I just turned 30) rather than as a result of us getting married. I wouldn’t have said I felt anxious or insecure in the relationship before, but now I just feel extra calm and extra secure. Plus, after almost 2 years planning a wedding, it’s nice to have some down time so that could be contributing too.

People keep asking what it’s like to be married (mostly married people actually, I wonder if it’s some kind of weird initiation or rite of passage) and my answer is just ‘there’s no difference’.

Post # 18
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2090 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We lived together for 2.5 years before marriage, and being married didn’t change anything. But honestly I think that’s a good thing, I would much rather have learned that we were incompatible living together during the dating stage, rather than after we were legally married! I don’t think I know of anyone in in real life (in my generation) that got married or engaged without living together first. 

Post # 19
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3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

ladyvk :  I used to say, “Exactly how cohabitating life was!” Because there was literally no difference.

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