Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
We didn’t live together before we got married. I think that going from dating to being married didn’t really change other than that we spend a lot more time together then when we were dating
Post # 17
- Wedding: March 2018 - The Venue, Barkisland, UK
We’ve been a couple for almost 13 years, living together for almost 3 years, and married for almost 3 weeks.
I’ve definitely noticed a subtle shift in my view of the relationship recently, but I think that comes from me changing as a person (practising mindfulness mainly, and probably growing up a bit too given I just turned 30) rather than as a result of us getting married. I wouldn’t have said I felt anxious or insecure in the relationship before, but now I just feel extra calm and extra secure. Plus, after almost 2 years planning a wedding, it’s nice to have some down time so that could be contributing too.
People keep asking what it’s like to be married (mostly married people actually, I wonder if it’s some kind of weird initiation or rite of passage) and my answer is just ‘there’s no difference’.
Post # 18
We lived together for 2.5 years before marriage, and being married didn’t change anything. But honestly I think that’s a good thing, I would much rather have learned that we were incompatible living together during the dating stage, rather than after we were legally married! I don’t think I know of anyone in in real life (in my generation) that got married or engaged without living together first.
Post # 19
ladyvk : I used to say, “Exactly how cohabitating life was!” Because there was literally no difference.