Post # 1
I am 30 something years old. FH and I are paying for our wedding ourselves. When I was younger, I use to say I wanted to do this… and I wanted to do that at my wedding. But now that I know that the time is coming, I have changed my mind about a lot of things that I want in my wedding.
For example, previously I wanted a long pretty extravagant dress, now I’m thinking that something nice and cheap will do. Previously I wanted a big wedding party, now I realize that I don’t have that many people that I truly would want to stand up there with me and I have narrowed it down to maybe 4Bridesmaid or Best Man and a Maid/Matron of Honor. I wanted to have a church wedding before and now I am totally not considering getting married in a church.
I want to know if there are any MATURE bees out there that have dratically changed their minds about their wedding plans as they have gotten older?
Post # 3
I can’t say I did or didn’t…. lol I never really had a picture in my mind about how my wedding would be. I just knew I wanted to be married to a wonderful man whom I loved with all my heart and who felt the same about me. That part has definitely stayed the same! I was very happy with my very small budget wedding! 😀
Post # 4
I did change my mind about some things. I decided that I’ve out grown the princess dress. I would rather look like a Hollywood bombshell. I don’t want a veil, i love the birdcage. I wan’t my wedding reception to be a great party, so I’m not hung up on overly decorating. I have no plans on Bridezilling. I’m not gonna sweat the small stuff on my big day. I definatly would have done that in my 20’s. I’m just going to enjoy it all.
Post # 5
I agree with the “less of a cupcake” dress feeling. When I was younger I wanted that, and I think I’d like for my daughter to wear something like that when she gets married. But for me, I wanted something more elegant and sleek. To me, a more fitted gown says “sophistication”. I’ve always wanted a long train, that never changed. I also don’t have as many “bridal party” type relationships. And I’ve never been interested in just having “fillers” just to say I had a big wedding party. So I won’t be having a bridal party at all. Which is actually saving us a TON of stress and money. We don’t need a limo, we don’t need bridal party gifts, no calling everyone to make sure they’ve gotten their dresses and tuxes, no flower girls or ring bearers. Nah, not for 30+yr old me. LOL.
Another advantage in addition to being a 30+ bride is we are also both encore bride/groom. We both remember how FAST our weddings went and know the value of a dollar now. We aren’t spending a ton of money and know it will be just as much fun!!
To co-sign on PP, I think you do get less “bridezilla-y”. Older and wiser for alot of ppl (not all of course) means not crying over spilled milk and sweating the small stuff.
Post # 6
I’m 37, and I’ve TOTALLY changed my mind about the wedding from when I first got engaged. I was originally thinking small, w/a black-and-white color scheme. Then I saw my beautiful dream gown (pics below), and it ALL changed completely! LOL We’re now having a big, tropical (i.e. Carribean) themed wedding. When I saw my gown, I decided to pull out all the stops and do it RIGHT this time. I’m an encore bride, and my first “wedding” was AWFUL – the “marriage” was even worse!!! The first time around, NOBODY ever once asked me what I’d like or what I needed. Even when I tried to speak up, I was run over and ignored. I had the wedding my mother wanted me to have, not what I wanted to have. Now that I’m older and wiser, I’m only concerened about pleasing my Fiance and myself (esp. since we’re paying for it LOL). I NEVER thought I’d have a chance to do this again, and I’m pulling out all the stops to reflect the joy and return of happiness that I feel. My best advice to brides of all ages is to listen to your instincts and wear the gown that makes YOU happy – it’s your special day, and you deserve it!
Post # 7
@alicat:What a beautiful gown! Congrats!
Post # 8
I’m 30 and everything changed. I originally didn’t want to get married at all. So that was a big difference.
If it did every happen I also assumed I would get married in a church and that didn’t happen. I also thought I would have a big bridal party, but I had and Maid/Matron of Honor, a bridesmaid, and a bridesman. I always thought that I would have a destination wedding in a light frock in a tropical place. I had a winter wonderland wedding in a huge gown. My wedding was one of the biggest most symbolic days of my life and I used to think it was something I would just do for my parents. It was also different to be able to pay for it by myself and be able to do what I wanted.
Post # 9
I am getting married at 30 – and I think that it is working out great. We are able to pay for our entire wedding ourselves. I am finding that I am able to focus on more of what we want to share with our guests, and less of feeling like I am forced to do certain things.
Post # 10
I think I have to some extent. When I was younger I think I pictured more princess for a day but now that I’m older it’s different. I didn’t get the huge puffy dress or the tiara and I’m completely happy about that. I also thought I’d get married in a church but realized even before I got engaged that wasn’t for me.
Post # 11
Me, me. LOL. Man, when I think of some of the things I wanted when I was younger and dreaming of my dream wedding, I have to laugh. I wanted an ice scultpture but now it just seems ridiculous to me. I wanted a horse drawn carriage to go in hand with a fairytale wedding, but its really unnecesary and out of budget. I wanted a fancy vintage car like a rolls royce, as our getaway car but more practical is fi’s car which he just fixed up really nice: new paint job, new tires and rims, body job, etc. Well worth the money and better for us financailly. I also wanted a really large bridal party: 30 girls. I don’t even know 30 girls that I would want in my bp so I am having 6 of my closest and best ladies with me.
Also before I knew the prices of weddings and was jotting down ideas i couldn’t belive how expensive it all was. Made me question my priorities.
I still held on to some things though: princess ballgown dress. Tiara (although much smaller than the huge gaudy ones I lusted after as a younger me). I have matured and most importantly I see what is important and what I can live without. I am still getting my dream wedding though just on a smaller budget and scale.