(Closed) Changes in Wedding?

posted 8 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I can’t say I did or didn’t…. lol I never really had a picture in my mind about how my wedding would be.  I just knew I wanted to be married to a wonderful man whom I loved with all my heart and who felt the same about me.  That part has definitely stayed the same!  I was very happy with my very small budget wedding!  😀

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I did change my mind about some things.  I decided that I’ve out grown the princess dress. I would rather look like a Hollywood bombshell.   I don’t want a veil, i love the birdcage.  I wan’t my wedding reception to be a great party, so I’m not hung up on overly decorating.  I have no plans on Bridezilling.  I’m not gonna sweat the small stuff on my big day.  I definatly would have done that in my 20’s.  I’m just going to enjoy it all.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree with the “less of a cupcake” dress feeling.  When I was younger I wanted that, and I think I’d like for my daughter to wear something like that when she gets married.  But for me, I wanted something more elegant and sleek.  To me, a more fitted gown says “sophistication”.  I’ve always wanted a long train, that never changed.  I also don’t have as many “bridal party” type relationships.   And I’ve never been interested in just having “fillers” just to say I had a big wedding party.  So I won’t be having a bridal party at all.  Which is actually saving us a TON of stress and money.  We don’t need a limo, we don’t need bridal party gifts, no calling everyone to make sure they’ve gotten their dresses and tuxes, no flower girls or ring bearers.  Nah, not for 30+yr old me.  LOL. 

Another advantage in addition to being a 30+ bride is we are also both encore bride/groom.  We both remember how FAST our weddings went and know the value of a dollar now.  We aren’t spending a ton of money and know it will be just as much fun!!

To co-sign on PP, I think you do get less “bridezilla-y”.  Older and wiser for alot of ppl (not all of course) means not crying over spilled milk and sweating the small stuff. 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m 37, and I’ve TOTALLY changed my mind about the wedding from when I first got engaged. I was originally thinking small, w/a black-and-white color scheme. Then I saw my beautiful dream gown (pics below), and it ALL changed completely! LOL We’re now having a big, tropical (i.e. Carribean) themed wedding. When I saw my gown, I decided to pull out all the stops and do it RIGHT this time. I’m an encore bride, and my first “wedding” was AWFUL – the “marriage” was even worse!!! The first time around, NOBODY ever once asked me what I’d like or what I needed. Even when I tried to speak up, I was run over and ignored. I had the wedding my mother wanted me to have, not what I wanted to have. Now that I’m older and wiser, I’m only concerened about pleasing my Fiance and myself (esp. since we’re paying for it LOL). I NEVER thought I’d have a chance to do this again, and I’m pulling out all the stops to reflect the joy and return of happiness that I feel. My best advice to brides of all ages is to listen to your instincts and wear the gown that makes YOU happy – it’s your special day, and you deserve it! Smile

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@alicat:What a beautiful gown!  Congrats!

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I’m 30 and everything changed. I originally didn’t want to get married at all. So that was a big difference.

If it did every happen I also assumed I would get married in a church and that didn’t happen. I also thought I would have a big bridal party, but I had and Maid/Matron of Honor, a bridesmaid, and a bridesman.  I always thought that I would have a destination wedding in a light frock in a tropical place. I had a winter wonderland wedding in a huge gown. My wedding was one of the biggest most symbolic days of my life and I used to think it was something I would just do for my parents. It was also different to be able to pay for it by myself and be able to do what I wanted.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I am getting married at 30 – and I think that it is working out great.  We are able to pay for our entire wedding ourselves.  I am finding that I am able to focus on more of what we want to share with our guests, and less of feeling like I am forced to do certain things.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I think I have to some extent. When I was younger I think I pictured more princess for   a day but now that I’m older it’s different. I didn’t get the huge puffy dress or the tiara and I’m completely happy about that. I also thought I’d get married in a church but realized even before I got engaged that wasn’t for me. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Me, me.  LOL.  Man, when I think of some of the things I wanted when I was younger and dreaming of my dream wedding, I have to laugh.  I wanted an ice scultpture but now it just seems ridiculous to me. I wanted a horse drawn carriage to go in hand with a fairytale wedding, but its really unnecesary and out of budget.  I wanted a fancy vintage car like a rolls royce, as our getaway car but more practical is fi’s car which he just fixed up really nice: new paint job, new tires and rims, body job, etc. Well worth the money and better for us financailly.  I also wanted a really large bridal party: 30 girls.  I don’t even know 30 girls that I would want in my bp so I am having 6 of my closest and best ladies with me. 

Also before I knew the prices of weddings and was jotting down ideas i couldn’t belive how expensive it all was.  Made me question my priorities.

I still held on to some things though: princess ballgown dress.  Tiara (although much smaller than the huge gaudy ones I lusted after as a younger me).  I have matured and most importantly I see what is important and what I can live without.  I am still getting my dream wedding though just on a smaller budget and scale.

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