Changing a honeymoon – Help!!

posted 2 years ago in Honeymoons
  • poll: What should we do?

    Cancel second choice honeymoon and take your dream one in a year when fiancé has the PTO

    Go on the one you booked already and deal with it since people did registry items for it

  • Post # 2
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    2669 posts
    Sugar bee

    My husband and I initially postponed our honeymoon for ‘6 months’ because our work schedules were too hectic and just did a mini honeymoon. Unfortunately, life got in the way and our dream honeymoon never happened.

    Now that it’s been a year, it really wouldn’t feel like a honeymoon at all anyway. Which also makes it even more difficult to set aside the time (work schedules are still crazy)

    That, along with the fact that people specifically contributed to your honeymoon, makes me think you should just go ahead with this one. Take your dream trip a couple of years from now. But taking a trip shortly after the wedding really does have a different feel to it. 

    Post # 3
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    952 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2019

    Unfortunately, I think you’re stuck because you already made the registry and people have contributed to the honeymoon. I’d be a little peeved if I contributed towards the honeymoon and then the couple was like “just kidding! we’re going to use that money towards a trip in another year!” I know that is not what you’re doing, but if I didn’t know the details you just explained here, it’s how I’d feel.

    Can you take a smaller honeymoon? I agree with PP that waiting a year isn’t going to feel like a honeymoon anymore, it’ll just be an anniversary trip. Can you scale back your plan B and take a smaller trip, to save money and save your fiance the unpaid time off?

    Post # 5
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    652 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2018

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    autumnbride18 :  

    My DH and I ran into a similar situation except we planned to take our dream honeymoon right after the wedding ( 3 days after ). As if got closer we experienced some real anxiety about spending so much when we could put it off until our first anniversary and things weren’t so tight directly after our wedding. 

    Long story short we bit the bullet and went anyway knowing we’d really have to buckle down when we got back. I have to tell you….I don’t regret our decision one bit. Life will always get in the way and shit happens…often. I love that our married life together started with this amazing trip where we got to just enjoy being married and truly focusing on each other after the craziness of wedding planning etc and before the day to day got in the way. 

    This wasn’t one of the options so I didn’t vote but…If you’re at 70% of the dream vacation cost, find the additional 30% and just go. You only get one honeymoon and I just don’t think it’ll be the same next year….it wouldn’t have been for us. You’ll resent it less because it’s what you really want. 

    It’s only money and you’ll recoup faster than you think. 

    Post # 6
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    1709 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

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    autumnbride18 :  I think shortening your trip sounds like a good compromise!  Although if I’d given you money for a trip and then your circumstances changed, I wouldn’t hold it against you for postponing or changing plans. People who love you will be understanding! 

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