(Closed) Changing Facebook status to 'engaged'

posted 6 years ago in Technology
  • poll: How long after the proposal before you updated your Facebook status to 'engaged'?
    I did it right way : (14 votes)
    7 %
    pretty soon after, within 24 hours : (79 votes)
    39 %
    a couple of days later : (44 votes)
    22 %
    I waited about a week : (19 votes)
    9 %
    2-3 weeks later : (13 votes)
    6 %
    I waited about a month : (6 votes)
    3 %
    over a month : (10 votes)
    5 %
    I still haven't changed it (please comment how long it's been) : (8 votes)
    4 %
    I won't ever change it : (9 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 16
    732 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I think I waited 4-5 days…we wanted to make sure we spoke to all of our family and close friends first. I also have a lot of extended family on FB, so I wanted to give my parents a chance to share the news via email and phone calls first. Also, no ring pics for me either! ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 17
    1813 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

    Pretty much right away. He proposed when I got home from work, then we had like an hour of cute alone-time sprinkled with phone calls to immediate family to tell them, then we went out to dinner. While we were waiting for our table, from his phone he posted the photo of us all smiley with my hand up, “she said yes!” etc (It was such a blurry crappy phone photo, but I still love it to this day. Both of us grinning ear to ear!)

    Actually now that I think about it, I tried to update my status to “engaged” while we waited for the table, but the mobile version of Facebook wouldn’t let me. I probably did it late that night or the next morning from the computer.

    Post # 18
    186 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Blue Horse Farm

    My Fiance proposed while we were on vacation in Hawai’i on a sunrise hike.  I kept it completely to myself for the entire trip until we were at the airport on our way home.  At that point I called my parents, sister, and our good friends but told them not to say anything on Facebook until we had a chance to talk to FI’s parents.  We also wanted to give our families a chance to tell anyone else they felt was important first.

    Once I knew everyone important had been notified is when I updated, probably like 3-4 days after we were engaged.  I also did not post any ring pics ๐Ÿ™‚

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 8 months ago by  MissGatitas.
    Post # 19
    3823 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    SellyJo:  He proposed at 12 midnight on Christmas Eve/Christmas morning. I posted a photo and changed my status around mid afternoon on Christmas day. He didn’t have a status at all (I was ok with that) and changed it to engaged the day before the wedding and to married the day after. It was pretty funny reading through his comments.


    Post # 21
    3823 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    SellyJo:  yeah people were taking it way too seriously like “wow! that was fast!”

    so funny that some people really assume that everyone treats their facebook profile like some sort of official social census that must be accurate at all times.

    Post # 22
    773 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens

    Our engagement was a little  . . . odd . . . my Fiance told me he bought a ring and showed it to me online the Friday before Christmas. We had TONS of family parties the following week (and my parents traveled in from out of state for them) so we told as many people in person as we could. I called and told family members and talked to friends on the phone as well (everyone was just waiting to hear it was official). Then, I let it be quiet for a few days, and posted to FB. Everyone got super excited again, which was a sweet feeling ๐Ÿ™‚ Haven’t posted about wedding things since then, though!

    Post # 23
    245 posts
    Helper bee

    about a week, waiting until we’d told everyone and asking people not to mention it on facebook beforehand.

    Post # 24
    3870 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I think I did it the following day. I told all of the important people, made all of the phone calls, sent all of the pictures. I didn’t even think to change it to the following day. My Fiance uses Facebook far less than me (I’m talking less than once a month) and he JUST changed his relationship status a couple of days ago, so I got a whole new flood on congratulations. 

    Post # 25
    14 posts

    We waited until we told all of my immediate family.

    It just so happened that we were having dinner with my family for my birthday two days later, so it worked out perfectly.

    Post # 26
    32 posts
    • Wedding: October 2015

    SellyJo:  we waited about 24 hours/until we had told our family and close friends personally. Once you post it on Facebook, it’s chaos (notifications, text messages, requests to see ring pics) so we enjoyed just keeping it to ourselves for a day.

    Funny story: my grandmother was the last person on our list to tell before we posted it on FB. I must have tried phoning her about a dozen times – it turned out she was home but wasn’t picking up because she was screening me! She hadn’t saved my new cell phone number in her call ID.

    Post # 27
    2347 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014


    SellyJo:  We were out of town when we got engaged, so a few days after being home I did it.  My Fiance never ACCEPTED THE REQUEST lol b/c he HATES fb and said, “why do people have to know every move we make, I’ll change it when we’re married”.  Jerk haha. 

    Post # 28
    815 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    Hah, I only JUST changed it, so it took me more or less 6 months.

    I posted a ring picture right when we got engaged and for whatever reason I didn’t think of switching the status.

    Post # 29
    1400 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    We made sure we told everyone first. Due to my large, spread across the world family and his just plain large family, it took us a bit. I was also going full time in school at the time and calling 50 people wasn’t on my list of priorities.  We told the VIPs (parents, siblings, grandparents, besties, close family etc) and then let them spread the word as well (via mouth!) and once we were sure all the bases were covered, I changed our status to ‘engaged’ and that was that.  Since then, other than a secret group for my female family members to talk wedding details, there had been no mention. I like to keep the world up to date but like the e-card says: A sign of a good relationship is no sign of it at all on Facebook. 

    On a semi related note.. I have a friend who just got engage and has posted a zillion updates, pictures of the ring, the proposal and so and and so forth and has mentioned her “wonderful loving fiancé” in like every post, update or status since. It’s driving me a little crazy and I hope she tones it down soon! There’s nothig quite like over enunciating your love on social media…


    edit it to add: 1111 posts! I quite like that number. It’s pretty cool looking. So even and balanced!

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 8 months ago by  lalalyanne. Reason: 1111 posts! Suweetest # Eva!
    Post # 30
    3725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    SellyJo:  FB isn’t real life. If you are doubting the idea of sharing the info there, go with your gut. I did change my status a few days later because I was so excited. However, sharing on FB did not change my life so yeah, it’s your call.

    I’m sure the friends that matter already know but sometimes it’s fun to let your acquaintances know too.

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