(Closed) Changing Facebook status to 'engaged'

posted 6 years ago in Technology
  • poll: How long after the proposal before you updated your Facebook status to 'engaged'?
    I did it right way : (14 votes)
    7 %
    pretty soon after, within 24 hours : (79 votes)
    39 %
    a couple of days later : (44 votes)
    22 %
    I waited about a week : (19 votes)
    9 %
    2-3 weeks later : (13 votes)
    6 %
    I waited about a month : (6 votes)
    3 %
    over a month : (10 votes)
    5 %
    I still haven't changed it (please comment how long it's been) : (8 votes)
    4 %
    I won't ever change it : (9 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 46
    490 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    We waited somewhere between a few days and a week because it took us that long to catch all of our relatives/close friends over the phone – basically all the people who deserved to hear the news to their Faces and not their Facebooks!

    Post # 47
    982 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

      SellyJo:  It was later that night.  He asked early afternoon-ish and then we of course called our family and then went out to celebrate at our favorite wine bar (that has since closed. Boo.  I digress…) and stopped to see friends at our gym’s “Smackdown.”  I think we both changed it when we got home later.  It was the easiest way to notify the rest of the people who were pretty sure it was happening that weekend.  haha

    • This reply was modified 5 years, 8 months ago by  MrsEvergreen.
    Post # 48
    86 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2015 - Briarwood Golf Course/ Country Club


    MrsGatito:  +1  That’s exactly what I did!

    We waited until I got the ring, and even then waited until we told our close family and friends before we put anything on FB.  I have yet to post a picture of my ring. 

    Post # 49
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I waited about a week but only because we were waiting to tell all of our family and close friends in person

    Post # 50
    5886 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    A few weeks.  My Darling Husband happened to be traveling to see some family a couple of days after E-day and he wanted to tell them in person.  It mabye took 2 weeks before we’d checked everyone off the list and then posted on FB for all to see.

    Post # 51
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    SellyJo:  We did it in 24 hours, because I promised Fiance that I would post my relationship status if there’s a certain level of serious involved. 

    Before that, there was no relationship status at all, not single, not in a relationship. 

    Post # 52
    6 posts
    • Wedding: May 2014

    SellyJo:  First the short answer: I didn’t… because the Hubby to Be beat me to it. Sad, but true. It took me months to “approve” his status update as “Engaged” because I was not that into the whole FB thing. NOw, sonce then, nothing has been spoken of about anything wedding becasue (A) we only recently set the date and (B) We decided to have only our closest peeps there… and don’t want to hash it out with all that drama that could be dragged out by posting it on facebook for all the “non-invitees” to be upset about. We are keeping it super private… almost like we are eloping, LOL.

    The longer version: WE are doing just about everything backwards…. We got engaged in 2008 on the day we closed on our first home. After walking in to the home after said closing, my Hubby To Be simply asked, “don’t you feel wierd that we now own a home together and we are not even engaged yet?” To which I smuggly replied, “No, not really!” He propsed with my wedding band because he bought the rings (w band and engagement setting) together and we decided to shop for the diamond at a later date.

    So, I had a ring on my finger…. and we waited even longer to set the date….like, five years longer. Hey, buying a house does a doozie on your finances. Fast forward to 2013….. We set a date and decided to just hurry up and do it…. (Long, sad story that I don’t awant to hash up right now)… Keeping it small (less than 20, including bride and groom) and super personal.

    So, we announced our engagement in the Fall of 2008… and nobody has heard a peep about it since. I am crapping myself at the mere thought of getting hitched… then coming on to say, “HEY! WE TIED THE KNOT WITHOUT (most of) Y’ALL!”

    Post # 53
    358 posts
    Helper bee

    canarydiamond:  I’m one of the few who doesn’t plan on changing it either.  We live in a society of social media narcissists – I have no desire to see how many likes and comments I can get.  

    I guess I’m a little old fashioned – I would rather tell people in person or over the phone rather than putting it on blast over the internet.

    Post # 55
    3051 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I changed mine about 4 or 5 hours after the proposal. I contacted those close to me and put it on fb for the rest. My Fiance doesn’t have a fb so no updating there. I did post ring pics though =) We spent MONTHS making my ring and I’ll be damned if I’m not showing it off a teeny bit

    Post # 56
    2570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Got engaged on a Monday evening, had the ring by Saturday morning, told our family over the weekend, changed relationship status the following Monday.

    Post # 57
    1669 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We did it a couple of days later, and just changed the status, no pictures, no cutesy messages. We had already contacted all our close friends and family members about the engagement first!

    Post # 58
    983 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    We changed ours the next morning, after calling our immediate families and best friends. My Fiance had planned an elaborate proposal and my sisters were in on it. He told our parents a couple of days before the proposal and also told his beat friends. He kept getting ‘how’d it go’ texts and was eager to put it on facebook and let everyone know at once but I wanted to tell my friends first.

    Post # 59
    964 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    about 2 weeks, we wanted to tell everyone important first but also he wanted to tell his parents in person so we had to wait 2 weeks or so to get a chance to as they live over 2 hours away from us. 

    Post # 60
    1066 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    We got engaged in Europe, so we stayed silent for the rest of the trip which was another week.

    When we got home, Fiance rang my dad first to ask for permission (he hadn’t done this yet because my dad lives OS so he had no idea how to contact him lol) Then we arranged to see all the family local to our area.  We also had our closest friends over for some drinks and to tell them the news.

    I also have lots of family interstate, so I sourced their numbers and called them personally to give them the news.

    Only when we were satisfied that everyone important had been notified, did we change our status on FB. 

    It is one of my pet peeves when people announce news such as engagements, pregnancies etc on Facebook before having the courtesy to tell their nearest and dearest first haha.  Your mum and best friend shouldn’t learn your news at the same time as the girl from high school you friend requested in the hopes of watching her get fat or something haha.

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