- 4 years ago
I was just in a similar situation (generous guest but couldnt attend their wedding). We ended up giving half of wha they gave us (which still would be a generous amount for those attending a wedding in my family). So in your example, I would probably either give them 100 or something off the registry for around that (not sure where your from but im guessing 100 is generous there). Put it this way, they arent paying for anything for you, so ANYTHING they receive from you is truely a gift.
In terms of considering others gifts, I think it depends on the situation. You always see the examples of a younger relative giving a smaller gift because they are starting out or have no money, and you shouldnt reciprocate that if you can afford something nicer. However, at our wedding, a good number of my husbands well off friends/family were not that generous (granted some of them had to get a hotel night- no flight). This includes the best man who got us a smaller gift off the registry, and RSVPed his girlfriend to the wedding and rehersal dinner, and gave a pretty lame excuse on why she didnt show up on top of not apologizing to me or my family who paid for the wedding and rehersal dinner. Same kid owns 2 luxury cars and a 600K house…needless to say when we have to fly to their wedding, we probably wont worry about stretching our budget to get them a super expensive gift.