- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
I’ve worked at this company for three years now, the past year and a half as a full time associate in department A. The prior time was spent as an intern (I was in college). I like the people I work with, except my supervisor’s boss. I shouldn’t have much interaction with her in theory, but I do. Rather than going to my supervisor to tell him what needs to be done, she goes to me and keeps him out of the loop. It’s a situation that frustrates my supervisor and I both and we’ve both made comments to her about how we’d appreciate it if she streamlined communication to be through my supervisor. May not sound like a big deal, but when I can’t do my job and get yelled at for not doing my job (because I don’t have all the information I need), it becomes a bigger deal.
I’ve been dealing with her poor communcation, poor management style, and terrible leadership (her giving me grief for wanting to take a course to further my development) for a year and a half now. I worked directly for her as an intern and was grateful that she hired me full-time after college (especially in this economy). I enjoyed my job very much at first.
But as the days drag by, I find it hard to get excited about going to work. I’ve been working on a project with some guys in our IT group, which has been fun except for her involvement. She actually screamed at one of them over the phone and people two cubes away heard her screaming over the phone.
Right after that happened, I ran into someone I worked with during a project (right after I’d started full-time). This lady really was impressed by me during that project and made it clear that she really enjoyed working together. I ran into her two times in two days (we work in separate buildings, so quite a feat!) after the incident with the screaming. She mentioned she had a position open and I agreed to chat with her.
The position sounds excellent, with a nice raise, and it’d be in an area that would greatly benefit my long-term growth. I applied and a few hours later I had an invite for an interview. I’ve been completely open and honest with my direct supervisor during all of this. He is very supportive of my wanting to leave and told his boss (the one who was screaming at our IT guys). She was angry and upset and immediately scheduled time to talk to me–on Friday when she knew I’d be out. I declined the meeting invite, telling her I’d be out of the office. So she sends me another for 6pm Thursday (yes, Thursday before my vacation day in conjunction with the Memorial Day holiday). I counter the meeting, suggesting we meet Tuesday. She emails me back saying that she doesn’t want to wait until next week, that it’s important we talk and sets up a 9am meeting today.
So I’m freaking out. She’s really angry and upset that I’m considering leaving. I like her very much as a person outside of work, but as a manager I can’t stand her. Her screaming at our IT guys (the one who worked ALL WEEKEND for us to have the data we needed, because of a mistake on our part) was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
I’m terrified of meeting with her now, after she’s thrown such a hissy fit about it. I think that the new position will be good for me, if it works out. If not, I’m completely screwed. Although, as my supervisor pointed out, it’s not like I was happy to begin with at work. I haven’t been happy in a long time, so much so that Fiance and I have been trying to figure out if we could afford for me to not work for awhile.
I just need to hear that I’m not doing anything wrong by leaving my current position for a better one. 🙁