- 2 years ago
I’m very comfortable and sometimes happy at my current job, but I’m feeling a bit stagnant and frustrated. I’ve gone as far as I can in this company, don’t have anyone in my field to learn from, and probably won’t be able to make a ton more money..
The problem is I’m 32 and want kids in the next few years and I can’t figure out whether to get a new job first, or have babies first (I’d like two pretty close together) If I wasn’t worried about fertility and energy levels I’d be happy to put it off until I was 40, but I’m not sure I should risk it.
So – I would love some advice from all the mums that went back to work. I’d love to hear about your experiences with mat leave/returning to work – even if they don’t directly apply to my situation. Was it hellfire, or was it easier than you thought? How bad was pregnancy brain? (Note: this will probably make more sense if you live somewhere that has ~1yr of mat leave)
Longer story if interested
Option 1: Stay at current position until mat leave is over
– I’m comfortable here
– I feel i’ve ‘paid my dues’ enough to take mat leave
– It might be easier to negotiate returning part-time at first if necessary etc.
– Wouldn’t have to worry as much about pregancy brain (I will also have to go off of psych meds that will affect my attention and mood)
– I won’t advance in my career for the next few years
– My mat leave pay might be less (though I guess a higher salary elsewhere isn’t guaranteed)
– Might be harder to motivate myself to look for a new job when I have little kids and am working somewhere comfortable already
Option 2: Look for new job and then start trying for kids 1-2 years later
– Advancing in career (important to me) & not feeling stuck
– better mat leave pay (hopefully).
– will get to start the new job without small kids at home
– I’m worried I won’t have enough time to prove myself before I start having kids
– Worried I’ll have bad pregancy brain in new-ish job
– I’ll have to wait until I’m 35/36 to start trying.
(Note: this will probably make more sense if you live somewhere that has ~1yr of mat leave)