(Closed) Changing last name…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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Busy bee

I didn’t change my last name. It just felt weird to me to have to change my name because we married, hyphens make my head hurt and it just seemed logistically annoying. We are having a baby now and the baby will have his last name. We may use my last name as either a first or middle name though. 

Post # 17
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I always knew I would change my name after marriage. That was something I really looked forward to doing. However, I was and am very attached to my maiden name. I also had a more than 25 year career in my maiden name, so I didn’t want to lose that professional connection.

Because of all of this, I chose the formal, traditional (US) name change of legally dropping my given middle name and taking my maiden name as my new, legal middle name. Now my name is in the form of Jane Smith Doe. People in my family still sometimes use my given middle name or initial, and, since that is on my birth certificate, it will “travel” with me throughout my life, even though it is no longer part of my legal name.

I would not suggest trying to have a non-hyphenated compound last name or having all four names, because I have heard some negative feedback from people who have tried to do that.

Post # 18
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Why don’t you just keep your last name as it is?

It’s too confusing to be hyphenated at school and something else in the “real world” (your job & the real world overlap a lot!). 

So, seriously, any reason you can’t keep your name? No changes? The kids can have your husband’s last name. 

Post # 19
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Helper bee

I’m not attached to my last name at all, so I’d take my boyriends. It means a lot to him for me to take it, and I love his last name, so it works out perfectly. 

 

Post # 20
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371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

 

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mrsfiddlesticks:   thats what I’m seriously considering and wondered if you had any issues simply adding another name onto yours. Is there any special process you went through or simply added his name as last name and your maiden became your second middle? 

Post # 21
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I’m a bigger fan of dropping the hyphen and making one long name. You can also blend the 2 into a new name.

Is he open to changing his? I have heard of girls making their maiden name their middle name and taking his name. Then he can do the same thing. And you can make your maiden/middle names your kids middle names. For instance, if you’re Sarah Marie Green, you could be Sarah Green Springer, he can be John Green Springer.

My fiance and I are picking a brand new name for the two of us. 🙂 Get creative! There are no rules here.

Post # 22
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268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I’m going to add my maiden name to my middle name but change my last name to his. I also plan on using my maiden name as the middle name for any of my children. My mom did that with me and my sister– it was really important for us to have her family’s name as well as my dad’s. 

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I moved my maiden name to my middle, but kept my original middle. So now I have 2 middle names. 

As for our children, they will have DH’s last name (since it is mine now too). But their First and Middle names will come from my side of the family. One name we picked is my Great-grandfather’s first name and my Dad’s middle name. The other name we picked is my Grandmother’s Maiden Name and my Mom’s Maiden name. 

 

Post # 24
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485 posts
Helper bee

I love hearing so many bees added their maiden names to their middle names because that’s what I want to do too!  I just couldn’t give up my maiden name entirely, but I also want to take my FI’s name, and that seemed like the best compromise. :]

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Just wanted to say that I think Sarah Springer is an awesome name. Yeah, it’s different and a big change, but it rolls so well!

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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springerwedding2016:  But neither are you keen. So why should you be the one to acquiesce, simply because you’re a woman?

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Sea Cider

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springerwedding2016:  not having kids, so it’s a non-issue for me.

the dogs will have my FI’s last name only, though

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