(Closed) Changing last name as feminist move

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

Salon also ran wire stories about studies showing that it’s worse for your career to change your name 🙂

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

interesting take on the subject, thanks for posting it

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I tried to post this before but had site issues… sorry if it ends up being a double post!

I like what they’re saying in the article that choosing to change one’s name is often not a political decision and it’s demeaning to women to make assumptions about someone because she changes her name.  Yes, I would like to live in a world where it’s equally common for men and women to change or keep their name, but putting my discontent with the status quo on the shoulders of women who make choices different than mine only makes things harder on us!

But I do really, really hate the argument that we go from one man’s name to another.  I feel like that invalidates the vast majority of women (those who have their fathers’ last names) as not being able to claim a name as their own, whereas men own theirs by birthright.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@jo.lee: Thanks.  That argument just drives me nuts, but at the same time there are plenty of women (and men) out there who aren’t connected to their name or don’t see it as a part of their identity.  I have a good half dozen reasons why I am so connected to mine and why it would be nothing short of traumatic to change it (and I don’t want to start a marriage with a trauma that I resent my husband for making me go through).  But but but that doesn’t mean every woman (or man) feels the same way.  We should at least have that option, though, not be told that because it belonged to a man it was never really ours.

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011 - The Providence Biltmore

I love the new take on the name change debate.  Ultimately it is me signing off on any last name I chose, and that’s empowering!  Stay strong sistahs, whatever your last name choice may be!

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