Post # 1
I’ve decided to change my last name based solely on the fact that I’ve always hated my last name, and I love his (Plus, it sounds so much cooler w/ my first name).
But, I was slightly worried about what that would say about me as a feminist, until I came across an article on Salon.com (great liberal blog).
The author said that some women choose to change their last names because they’re moving from their father’s last name to a name that they’ve chosen to take. I don’t want to offend anyone, I just think it’s an interesting take on the issue!
For your reading pleasure (or not!): http://www.salon.com/life/feature/2003/10/16/names
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
Salon also ran wire stories about studies showing that it’s worse for your career to change your name 🙂
Post # 6
interesting take on the subject, thanks for posting it
Post # 7
I tried to post this before but had site issues… sorry if it ends up being a double post!
I like what they’re saying in the article that choosing to change one’s name is often not a political decision and it’s demeaning to women to make assumptions about someone because she changes her name. Yes, I would like to live in a world where it’s equally common for men and women to change or keep their name, but putting my discontent with the status quo on the shoulders of women who make choices different than mine only makes things harder on us!
But I do really, really hate the argument that we go from one man’s name to another. I feel like that invalidates the vast majority of women (those who have their fathers’ last names) as not being able to claim a name as their own, whereas men own theirs by birthright.
Post # 8
@Entangled: Good point about ownership of your own last name. I’ve never really felt connected to mine, so I didn’t see it that way until you pointed it out.
Post # 9
@jo.lee: Thanks. That argument just drives me nuts, but at the same time there are plenty of women (and men) out there who aren’t connected to their name or don’t see it as a part of their identity. I have a good half dozen reasons why I am so connected to mine and why it would be nothing short of traumatic to change it (and I don’t want to start a marriage with a trauma that I resent my husband for making me go through). But but but that doesn’t mean every woman (or man) feels the same way. We should at least have that option, though, not be told that because it belonged to a man it was never really ours.
Post # 10
- Wedding: March 2011 - The Providence Biltmore
I love the new take on the name change debate. Ultimately it is me signing off on any last name I chose, and that’s empowering! Stay strong sistahs, whatever your last name choice may be!
Post # 11
@Entangled: The reason this article first struck me is that I have a friend who doesn’t get along well with her family for some very good reasons on her part, but she doesn’t want to take FH’s last name because she doesn’t want to be seen as less of a feminist, but she also doesn’t want to keep her last name because of her father.
Sigh. At least we have options nowadays!