Post # 1
After you change your name to your married last name, how do you let people at work know??
Also, what should my email signature say? I work with primarily people overseas (their english isn’t always best). My bosses are all guys, so I don’t think they would know what to do. I have never seen it done, but I don’t think I have worked with someone who has gotten married either.
Should it be:
1. FirstName NewLast
2. FirstName (OldLast) NewLast
3. FirstName NewLast (OldLast)
What have yall done?
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley
I just did this this week, lol.
For those people that I could, I told them beforehand I’d be changing my name soon due to marriage. For those I don’t have that type of relationship/situation with, I made my signature like this:
First Name (Maiden Name) New Last Name
Post # 3
texaslemon: Mine is currently FirstName (OldLast) NewLast
My actual email address is [email protected]…. and the name the email is from his FirstName NewLast
Emails to my old address have an auto-reply directing them to the new name.
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
I used the (maiden name) for a month or two, then dropped it. I email the same few people all the time, they figured it out. For anyone else, they could usually tell from my job title and email content, or they would ask and I would explain. I have a fairly unusual first name though and there were only two other people wiht my name, neither of whom worked in my department or spelled it the same way.
Post # 5
texaslemon: My first day back at work I just had IT change my email address to my new name and had our offices services department update the telephone directory. So a new directory was sent around to everyone via email and right in the email the OS girl said my name had been changed because I was married.
I changed my email signature right to FIRST NAME/ NEW LAST NAME. If anyone has been confused by this change they haven’t mentioned a word to me about it.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
texaslemon: I legally changed my name from First Middle Maiden to First Middle Maiden NewLast. So for my work info, I changed my name from First Maiden to First Maiden NewLast. I am fine just going by First NewLast, but I thought having the Maiden in there would help provide some context and continuity.
I didn’t really specifically tell people at work – they knew I got married (some came to the wedding), so I figured next time they got an email from me, they’d put it together. Same with our clients and the other various people I interact with… once they saw an email, they’d figure it out.
Post # 7
- Wedding: The castle at stagecoach
i kept my last name since on my fathers side i come from a historically important family ( a very noble germaic house) while all titles were abolished in 1919 i still get called the grand duchess ____________(my name) by my distant royal cousins and when inviting their offical events ( but now instead of her serene highness grand duchess___________ i now just get called the grand duchess_____ mrs. my husbands last name….and so my parents and gparents begged me (or rather ordered on the case of my grandfather to keep my last namee. since i converteted to catholicism when i was 19 after a car accident i lost all possibilty of being in the line of succession also i had to ask for approval before marriage which i didnt do either, also because of modeling lingerie i got taken out of the line of succession, so there were multiple reasons i got the boot. i dont really care because its just a cortesy title anyway, i only got called that when getting invited to distant cousins royal weddings or charity events ran by them… my little sister however is still protestant, and so she got to keep her title and her husband was given one as well /but a lesser title) because they went through the process of asking permission….all retarded to me really….any way since they insisted i keep my last name… and my husband is latino i have ke put my last name and added de _____( my husbands last name.
so if my name was daisy jones (its not lol) and i married someone named (diaz, not my husbands last name he actually has an irish last name even though hes latino due to the fact that hes half irish) so my name now would be daisy jones de diaz (ofcourse as i said thats not my real name=
i dropped my middle name bc by causality, my husband last name is the same as my middle name and i thought the repeat sounded stupid. my parents and gparents didnt like it either that i dropped my middle name but….saying my name outloud with one name twice sounded rediculious so… i changed it…or rther took it off. i know my situation is a little diff than yours,
but instead of dropping my last name or hyphening it i just did my last name de the last name of my husband (de is of in spanish by the way ….. for modeling jobs i use my husbands last name, i used to use mine but when i started modeling lingerie my family asked me to stop using my last name thinking it would make the family look bad, i think most of this came from my grandfather in germany actually, but i dont mind using my husbands name for modeling jobs. when i finish my ph.d im going to use my maiden name de husbands last name
Post # 8
But people did wonder who the heck I was at first!
Post # 9
I’ve decided to use both last names at work. Had to decide last week when the business card order was going in.
Post # 10
- Wedding: The castle at stagecoach
RedHeadKel: idk what u look like but if u look italian or latina at all tht might be why because latino use their fathers last name first and then there mothers and if they get married they usually use all their origianl names and add de(of) husbands last name….sometimes they will use just the mothers name cuz its last and then their new name and some use the fathers last and then the new last name….so tht may be where the confusion is coming from?
Post # 11
RedHeadKel: haha exactly. Most of my correspondence is over email…so this worries me! haha.
I have a unisex name that most associate with a boy, so I have an extremely girly signature (not like hello kitty smileys or anything, just a pretty script)…yet I still get called “Mr. _____” or “Good morning, gentlemen”…. haha!! People don’t even bother looking, so I am just interested to know how most people do it and others learn over time.