Post # 16
My situation is a little different, but I’ll share nonetheless. I recently (5ish months ago) legally switched my first and middle names. My entire life, I’ve been known by a shortened version of my former middle name (Brianne), and my former first name was rarely used except on legal and official documents. It caused a lot of confusion in my professional and personal lives. Even some folks who were invited to my wedding told me they had no idea who was getting married at first because they didn’t know Bria/Brianne wasn’t my first name.
I did all of this almost a year after getting married and changing my last name, and this process was much more involved (and expensive) than changing my last name was. Several trips to the court house, lots of paperwork, contacting the local newspaper to have a noticed published. Now, after the change, I am still to this day contacting creditors, doctor’s offices, utility companies, vital records offices, etc. to update my information. Some only require a written statement, while others want a copy of the legal judgement, my new ID/SS card, $50, a lock of my hair and a blood sample (not really).
All of that being said, I don’t regret doing it one bit. If changing your name will make you happy, I say go for it.
Post # 17
Sorry, I find this a really extreme thing to do (unless you have a stalker or something) and I don’t think you will be happy with the results. There are a dozen ways to spell Kathryn and people will call you by nicknames no matter what. It will be more difficult than Kristin. I feel like this is deeper than just the name for you and I encourage you to talk to a professional about why you really want to do this.
ETA: it’s one thing to legally change your name to reflect what people actually call you, like PP’s situation. But if people call you Kristin and you suddenly want to change your legal name to Kathryn and expect everyone to suddenly call you by an entirely brand new name, spell it correctly, and not use a nickname, I think you will face a lot of problems and it may not be worth it. you have a lovely name. make peace with it
Post # 18
pickles325: Thank you for your input and your compliments to my name. In fact, moving forward with awareness and purpose is precisely what I plan to do, with or without professional help. I am not against it, but I do not judge myself for feeling this way. Again, I am not asking for judgment, I am asking for advice and guidance from people who have been in my situation. If you do not understand it, that is ok, and I appreciate your opinion. I will be doing this entirely for myself, not for the comfort of others, and as PPs have said, it is on them if they choose not to respect who I decide to be.
Post # 19
MsLiveOak: Fair enough! For what it’s worth, I think the “Katherine” spelling is much prettier and probably more common than Kathryn. (Although take it with a grain of salt because I know only one Kathryn, who I dislike, and many very nice Katherines.) Good luck with the process!
Post # 21
MsLiveOak: Sorry to tell you but if you’re quite tired of correcting people, Katherine (any spelling) is not the name you should go with. You will absolutely have to be telling people non stop the ‘way’ to spell your name. Katherine, Kathryn, Catherine, etc…if you love the name , great, but just be prepared for that
Post # 22
I definitely agree that Katherine will not help you in the “intuitively spelled names” department. I have an unusual name so I know what it is like always correcting both pronounciation AND spelling with pretty much everyone I meet.
However, since you have already made up your mind to change it, I think you should decide on which spelling of Katherine YOU like best. Try signing it, new signature, try it on business card mock ups, etc… one of them will feel “RIGHT” to you.
Don’t base it so much on which one people will spell more easily because either way you will have to tell them how it is spelled because there are so many commonly used variations.
If Katherine, you could say “Katherine with a K”
If Kathryn, you could say “Kathryn with RYN at the end” 🙂