(Closed) Changing my ideas on when to have a baby… Not married yet

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I don’t know if I have an opinion really. I kinda wanted one while we were dating, but not really. We conceived by accident a week before the wedding. We were together a few years before we got married such as yourself. I feel you on the labor, I went through 50 hours of it (not pushing, had to get a c-section). I also do not know if I want another because of it. However, I am younger then my husband and he has a deadline of like a year for me to figure it out because he dosn’t want to be an “old dad”.  It is true that I can schedule the next one and I probably won’t go through that again….but I guess I am just traumatized lol. Also, while I love my baby….she is a handful.

So, I am pretty much in the same boat you are.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@kris325:  Awwww :). This is true! The extra help is very nice. It sounds to me like you two are ready.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’d probably go ahead and have the child sooner. Also, remember that usually the second labor is much easier than the first.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

sounds like you need to stop hinting and have a real conversation with your fiance to see where he stands now that you know how you feel.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Also for religious reasons Birth Control is just not an option for us so we delayed getting married for 6 months longer than planned as I didn’t feel 100% “ready” when we got engaged.

I think if you know it’s not in your hands once you are married helps in a way as I’m not sure I could have ever made a positive commitment to “try” at any given point – like you I do really worry about childbirth.

As it happens God obviously has his own plans as I fell pregnant very quickly – I’m nervous but to me marriage and motherhood are synonymous so I’m looking forward to it big time.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@kris325:  How old are you if you don’t mind me asking? I ask because I am wondering how far away 30 really is.. I agree that you need to have a conversation with your Fiance sooner rather than later.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

It’s hard for me to think past our first baby next summer and I don’t want to tempt fate but I kind of have in mind that we might have three or maybe four. I hope to breast feed and hopefully that will spread things out a bit. I’ve read about Natural FP but we really would prefer not to do anything – even that unless we have to.

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