Changing my mind about the dress — please help me decide what to do (pic-heavy)

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 77
41 posts
  • Wedding: June 2019

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girlandherpearl :  omg. I am IN LOVE with your dress. What kind/model is it? So unique yet utterly classic. 

I totally get what you mean about feeling uncomfortable despite compliment though – I couldn’t go with a sheath gown for that very reason, yet it was the one that got the most positive reactions. Comfort and confidence is most important. It’s your day. Is there anything further that can be added/altered to achieve that for you? Xoxo much love. And don’t freak out ! You will figure this out. Promise. 

Post # 78
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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girlandherpearl :  

 I think k it looks great . But could be  even better imho, if the  mesh had been the white/ivory colour of the dress , not nude . 

Post # 79
4923 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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girlandherpearl :  I love your dress but I do agree its a lot revealing around your tatas which is fine if that is what you want but from your recent update it seems like that isn’t. 

I honestly think a  thinner mesh strip through the middle will bring the gap together and make it less ‘hello here are my girls’. Using an ivory/ white mesh or shiffon may also work better to make it less revealing.

Another option would be to shorten the halter neck, which will in turn make the dress sit a little higher. With that you won’t have as much of  the top curve of your inner boobs on show. If it comes up an inch the fabric will cover the swell of the breast and all you will really see is your sternum, which is inherently less sexy than a display of boob. I still think you look amazing as is but I too would not feel as comfortable with revealing so much even though I know it looks good.


Post # 80
28 posts

I know I’m late but just wanted to say I think that dress looks beautiful on you! You are right though the nude mesh in the middle looks a little odd. Could they put something in the same color as the dress? Sheer or thicker. Other than that the dress is stunning and you look fabulous!

Post # 82
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Sooooo gorgeous! I love this more than the first and I’m so happy you went with what you’re comfortable in! I also bought two dresses after being unsure of the first–I’m thinking it’s more common than I realized. 

Post # 83
1646 posts
Bumble bee

It looks beautiful! Just the difference in your body language makes it obvious you are so much more comfortable in the new dress.

Post # 85
2842 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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girlandherpearl : FWIW I think you made the right choice with the second dress. Even with the alterations, the first one was sort of sitting funny on you. I loved the pattern of it but thought that the fabric was too heavy for your delicate figure, so the dress was kind of overwhelming you.  

The second one looks perfect on your figure and the train is divine.

How are you going to accessorise it? And what sort of bouquet will you carry?

Post # 88
1172 posts
Bumble bee

Both dresses are gorgeous!!! But it is most important that you feel comfortable and happy in your dress, otherwise you’ll act self conscious the whole time and that will be reflected in your photos, not a great look. 

Have to be honest I actually preferred the first dress, it showed just the right amount of cleavage I thought, but it does look quite heavy, which I wouldn’t have chosen. 

I’m also a “two dress bride”. Bought the first dress cheaply, and it was a lovely dress, and felt like “me”. But just kept feeling like something was amiss. It didn’t make me feel special. So just out of curiousity I went to a bridal store and tried on a bunch of dresses and found one I just loved. Ended up buying it on second try 🙂

Post # 89
3821 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I agree there was something slightly off about the fit of the bodice on the first one. Glad you’re happy now 🙂

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