Post # 76
An update for you. I went back to the tailor and tried on the newly fitted first dress. These are the pictures.
I am still so uncomfortable with the way it looks in the chest area – I find it makes me look much bigger than I am (huge push-up effect). The women in the store were also (very kindly, they didn’t know that I usually don’t show a lot of cleavage and am sensitive about it) complimenting me on “how sexy my boobs look” which is 10000% not the look I’m going for.
I asked that they put in some extra fabric, so they fitted a wider mesh in the bust, which is what you’re seeing here. They also added some darts to the bodice.
Post # 77
omg. I am IN LOVE with your dress. What kind/model is it? So unique yet utterly classic.
I totally get what you mean about feeling uncomfortable despite compliment though – I couldn’t go with a sheath gown for that very reason, yet it was the one that got the most positive reactions. Comfort and confidence is most important. It’s your day. Is there anything further that can be added/altered to achieve that for you? Xoxo much love. And don’t freak out ! You will figure this out. Promise.
Post # 78
I think k it looks great . But could be even better imho, if the mesh had been the white/ivory colour of the dress , not nude .
Post # 79
I love your dress but I do agree its a lot revealing around your tatas which is fine if that is what you want but from your recent update it seems like that isn’t.
I honestly think a thinner mesh strip through the middle will bring the gap together and make it less ‘hello here are my girls’. Using an ivory/ white mesh or shiffon may also work better to make it less revealing.
Another option would be to shorten the halter neck, which will in turn make the dress sit a little higher. With that you won’t have as much of the top curve of your inner boobs on show. If it comes up an inch the fabric will cover the swell of the breast and all you will really see is your sternum, which is inherently less sexy than a display of boob. I still think you look amazing as is but I too would not feel as comfortable with revealing so much even though I know it looks good.
Post # 80
I know I’m late but just wanted to say I think that dress looks beautiful on you! You are right though the nude mesh in the middle looks a little odd. Could they put something in the same color as the dress? Sheer or thicker. Other than that the dress is stunning and you look fabulous!
Post # 81
Thank you all so much for your helpful comments, and for being honest, and yet respectful. The dress situation is an odd one because I am so aware of the fact that I’ll only be wearing the dress for a short 6-7 hours. At the same time, this is the wedding dress that FH will see me in as his wife for the first time, and the dress that will be in all of our pictures.
After returning to my tailor to try adding darts to the bodice and an extended mesh, I still felt so uncomfortable with the way that it fit me that I decided to purchase the second dress. I am so much more comfortable in my new gown, and feel so much more like -me-. I spoke to my parents about it, and they agree and understand where I’m coming from (which was a huge weight off my chest!!)
Here she is!
ETA — this is the back:
I am over the moon.
Thank you so much again for all of your help, bees.
Post # 82
Sooooo gorgeous! I love this more than the first and I’m so happy you went with what you’re comfortable in! I also bought two dresses after being unsure of the first–I’m thinking it’s more common than I realized.
Post # 83
It looks beautiful! Just the difference in your body language makes it obvious you are so much more comfortable in the new dress.
Post # 84
From what I’ve been hearing, it absolutely is. I actually ran into another bride when my FH was getting his suit fitted and we struck up a conversation about dresses. It turns out she had purchased -three!-. I envy the bees who find their dress on the first try, but am happy for brides like you and I who find it on the second!
Post # 85
girlandherpearl : FWIW I think you made the right choice with the second dress. Even with the alterations, the first one was sort of sitting funny on you. I loved the pattern of it but thought that the fabric was too heavy for your delicate figure, so the dress was kind of overwhelming you.
The second one looks perfect on your figure and the train is divine.
How are you going to accessorise it? And what sort of bouquet will you carry?
Post # 86
Thank you so much! I’m delighted with my decision but it means a lot to be validated here. The fit/weight of the fabric was exactly the problem I was having with the first dress, combined with the way that it emphasized and exposed my chest.
As for styling, I actually went with a completely new veil, too. I’m going to be wearing a thin cathedral length veil in soft white, and for the bouquet I’m going to do something a little bit smaller and more delicate, like this:
Post # 87
Thank you!! You’re absolutely right. Looking back at pictures of the first dress I’m frowning and have my arms crossed in front of me in almost all of my pictures.
Post # 88
Both dresses are gorgeous!!! But it is most important that you feel comfortable and happy in your dress, otherwise you’ll act self conscious the whole time and that will be reflected in your photos, not a great look.
Have to be honest I actually preferred the first dress, it showed just the right amount of cleavage I thought, but it does look quite heavy, which I wouldn’t have chosen.
I’m also a “two dress bride”. Bought the first dress cheaply, and it was a lovely dress, and felt like “me”. But just kept feeling like something was amiss. It didn’t make me feel special. So just out of curiousity I went to a bridal store and tried on a bunch of dresses and found one I just loved. Ended up buying it on second try 🙂
Post # 89
I agree there was something slightly off about the fit of the bodice on the first one. Glad you’re happy now 🙂
Post # 90
Thanks bee! I’m so glad that you went back and found ‘the dress’. That’s actually exactly what I did with my dress! I went and tried it on, fell in love with it, and then went back and bought it before I’d been in it for more than five minutes.
I think that the first dress was lovely, but I’m just not used to having the girls up and out that way (though it isn’t by any means a really ‘sexy’ dress; I just tend to be more reserved, so it feels like it to me!)