Post # 1
I know picking a ring is going to be an open process for us, and I really want to get my mind made up about what I’d want so I’m not changing my mind 100 times while poor SO is trying to buy the darn thing.
First I wanted a moissanite, because they’re sooo much cheaper than diamonds, more sparkly, all that jazz. I was really set on the traditional round style, something I could never get sick of. This was about 2 or 3 months ago.
Then I changed my mind. Moissanite was still to expensive to me, and I wanted something less identical to most other rings. Every gemstone e-ring I saw was just so striking and lovely, I wanted something like that. I gravitated towards amethyst first, purple is my favorite color, then switched to purple sapphire, more durable. Lab created stones are really cheap, but hard to find in this color. I also changed my aliance to the oval shape. This was the last month or so.
NOW I’m starting to think, purple is too bold of a color. It doesn’t go with everything I wear. I’ve been wearing a purple costume ring I have, and it’s really fun, but I mostly only feel I can wear it with my equally bright purple sweatshirt, or black. I’m afraid I’ll get sick of it after every day wear. I’m gravitating a lot more towards regular blue sapphire (still lab created) I’ve always loved blue sapphires, especially a nice dark clear one. The more rings I look at the more I love it. It’s a pretty neutral color, but still deep and rich. It seems a lot more timeless and practical, these are both important things to me. Are these good reasons to pick an e-ring? has anyone ever regretted having a ring that’s too bold/young?
Also, will I just change my mind again in another month? Is this normal?
Post # 3
I have a very typical ring, so I can’t answer all your questions, but the blue, I can say, would look gorgeous. My nana was given a sapphire and diamond 5 stone ring for her 25th anniversary and wore it for 20 years. It was gorgeous and now my mother wears it. It never seems “off” or clashes, but it catches the eye and is very appealing.
Since you like to change your mind, why not go to Target or Walmart and buy a few “junk” pieces in a variety of colours. Try wearing them for a week or so (like you did with your purple ring) and you will quickly know if you get sick of it. If a coloured stone does eventually become too much, you can always turn it into a right hand ring and upgrade.
Post # 4
@takemyhand: Fantastic idea. OP, I say you follow her advice and buy a cheap version of one you like to decide if you still love it in a week or a month.
Post # 5
I have a bright yellow diamond. Whether or not it “matched” was rather irrelevent to me. Cant hurt to go to a store and see whats there and what you think you may like.
Post # 6
I have a sapphire and diamond ring and LOVE it. I wear a lot of color and never really feel like it clashes. I think buying cheap colored stone rings and “trying it out” seems like a great option though!
Post # 7
My boss and Future Sister-In-Law both have diamond and sapphire half eternity bands and wear them every day. It was my choice if we were going the non-diamond or band only route. I think sapphire is the one gem stone that looks like a neutral. I would be worried about matching a pink, purple, or red in a professional setting (wouldn’t care about it at home or if I didn’t work in an environment where suits and professional dress is required), but sapphire seems fine.
Post # 8
I have an amethyst ring and I NEVER wear purple! If I were picking my own gemstone it would have been more along the lines of a citrine or ruby. That being said, I love my purple ering and wear it happily every day. I don’t worry about it matching and have heard nothing but good comments on it. I say go for it!
Post # 9
FYI: diamonds ARE GEMSTONES. They’re not in their own special category!
Sorry, that’s a personal pet peeve of mine. It drives me crazy when women categorize rings as “diamond rings” and “gemstone [aka colored gem] rings.” They are the exact same thing!
I have an emerald e-ring and I love it. Matching it to clothes simply isn’t a concern. Rings are too small to make a difference. I say decide on a stone you love and go with it!
Post # 10
I was the opposite of you…I went from gemstones to moissanite in my preferences haha.
The only advice I can offer is if you go with a lab-created Sapphire, make SURE you get a Chatham (the company that makes it!). They are the only ones that grow it like it would look naturally, so it looks like a real sapphire would. Other lab-created stones look much more like glass or “fake”. They are a bit more expensive, but totally worth it when you compare them in person.
Post # 11
I have a blue sapphire, and since I love the color, I havn’t gotten sick of it. (Although, I’ve only had it like 4 months. lol)
I tend to wear alot of blues, or jewel tone colors, so it pretty much goes with anything that I wear.
Post # 12
Maybe buy yourself a cheaper sapphire (or other blue stone: CZ, blue zircon, london blue topaz, etc) ring and wear it as a right hand ring every day. Then see if you like the color and shape, or find yourself wishing for something else!
Post # 13
Me ering is an amethyst – I honestly don’t have problems with it clashing with my wardrobe and I rarely wear purple.
Nailpolish colors can be a bit tricky with colored stones though if you are more “OCD” about things being matchy. I’ve been doing French manis more than ever since I got it. To tell you the truth though, I have a diamond ring and a couple of CZ rings I’ll wear on my left finger if I want to do a bolder nail look (I also wear the CZ’s to work because my ering is highset, antique, has tiny side diamonds and has a not very hard colored stone). I’m just the type of person that needs to switch it up.
If you think you’ll get sick of purple, don’t go with amethyst. Just a suggestion, Lab Alexandrite has a nice color change, from blue to purple or greenish blue to red depending on where you buy it. The stone will exhibit a full color change under different lighting.
I have a lab sapphire ring and it has the dark, deep “clear” look you like.
As far as changing your mind about what you want ALL THE TIME, I can totally relate. The truth is, if you love jewelery, sometimes you will get some mild ring envy/second guess your choice no matter how totally head over heels in love you are with your ering. When it comes down to it, you will find the ring that makes your heart stop and you will know.
Post # 14
I’ve told SO I want this one:
There are a few methods of growing high quality sapphires, Chatham’s one, Better Than Diamond uses another, and there are one or two other recommended companies. Can’t remember their names. lol.
It’s totally normal to change your mind! I think I’ve gone through about 7 different options before settling on this one. I think when you finally know, you know. I finally found “the one” because it was the only one that SO and I both really liked.
Post # 15
i wore a diamond ering with deep red garnet side stones pretty much every day (i took it off for a few months when i was pregnant because of swelling) for eight years. now i wear an oval orange sapphire ering. it’s such a small detail, really, so it doesn’t really “clash” with anything. and i’d say orange is a pretty hard color to match with stuff. blue goes with pretty much everything, so even if color-clashing WAS an issue with colored gemstone erings (which it isn’t), you’d still have nothing to worry about. 😉
Post # 16
Buying a cheap RHR is a great idea, I think I’ll definately do that!
I think the problem I’m having with my purple ring is that it’s unnaturally bright and quite large, natural amethysts look a lot different, I haven’t seen any purple sapphires in real life to tell their color.
Maybe I’ll just tell my SO that there are several types of stones I like and let him pick. Ultimately, I am always going to love more than 1 thing.