Post # 1
I seriously didn’t even want to try this month. My husband kept asking to and i took two chances.. Yesterday was O day and i had a pos test on Wednesday.. we did it monday night and wed night.. :-/ now im kind of a wreck worrying its gonna happen instead of not.. Im gonna be 39.. that m/c just messed me up in every way back in february.. my hormones, my mind, my body most of all. I gained fifteen lbs! i know it might not sound like a big deal but to me its so hard cause i have had an eating do since 8 years old. this weight gain just reminded me of how hard my first preganncy was nine years ago and i really dont think i can do it again. i hate how i look and i cant stand the thought of gaining more.. and another c section. so i hope i do not get pregnant this month cause i am pretty sure im giving up this idea.
Post # 2
I’m not sure what you’re looking for here and whether you want advice. I haven’t been through a miscarriage so I don’t know what that’s like, but honestly, it sounds like you really need to talk to your husband and get some counselling, if you haven’t already done that. If you think you can’t handle another pregnancy, you absolutely should not be trying to get pregnant and you and your Darling Husband need to be on the same page about that. You say you really don’t think you can do it again…then you need to be clear with your Darling Husband and take active steps to prevent pregnancy, because it’s really not healthy to go into pregnancy unwillingly. On the other hand, if your reluctance to conceive again is primarily because of your grief over your miscarriage, I think it would be hard on you to give up your dream of having another child during a rough period in your life and then regret it later. No one here can tell you what to do or how to proceed, but it just sounds like you have some emotional issues that need to be addressed with professional help so that you can have some peace in your life and find a way to move forward with whatever you decide to do. Take care of yourself. I’m so sorry for your loss and what you’re going through now.
Post # 3
sound like you and Darling Husband need to take a step back and talk it out. everyone handles loss differently, but you have to find the same page.
Post # 4
I totally agree with everything jetsetbee:
said. I too had an early miscarriage and yes, it is a difficult and emotional thing to overcome. Ultimately we know we want children so trying again was never the emotional struggle for us, it was mourning our loss that was difficult. I personally have been following along with your posts and will be completely honest when I say that you do not sound like you are emotionally stable enough to TTC and/or bring a child into the world at this time. I would sit down and talk to your husband. He should be supporting you during this hard time and together, you should decide when the timing is right for your family.