(Closed) Changing my mind on the whole baby thing

posted 5 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
620 posts
Busy bee

I’m not sure what you’re looking for here and whether you want advice. I haven’t been through a miscarriage so I don’t know what that’s like, but honestly, it sounds like you really need to talk to your husband and get some counselling, if you haven’t already done that. If you think you can’t handle another pregnancy, you absolutely should not be trying to get pregnant and you and your Darling Husband need to be on the same page about that. You say you really don’t think you can do it again…then you need to be clear with your Darling Husband and take active steps to prevent pregnancy, because it’s really not healthy to go into pregnancy unwillingly. On the other hand, if your reluctance to conceive again is primarily because of your grief over your miscarriage, I think it would be hard on you to give up your dream of having another child during a rough period in your life and then regret it later. No one here can tell you what to do or how to proceed, but it just sounds like you have some emotional issues that need to be addressed with professional help so that you can have some peace in your life and find a way to move forward with whatever you decide to do. Take care of yourself. I’m so sorry for your loss and what you’re going through now. 

Post # 3
2449 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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geniebean14:  sound like you and Darling Husband need to take a step back and talk it out. everyone handles loss differently, but you have to find the same page. 

Post # 4
2427 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I totally agree with everything 

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jetsetbee:  said. I too had an early miscarriage and yes, it is a difficult and emotional thing to overcome. Ultimately we know we want children so trying again was never the emotional struggle for us, it was mourning our loss that was difficult. I personally have been following along with your posts and will be completely honest when I say that you do not sound like you are emotionally stable enough to TTC and/or bring a child into the world at this time. I would sit down and talk to your husband. He should be supporting you during this hard time and together, you should decide when the timing is right for your family.

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