- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I’ve been married, for a few months and will be legally changing my name soon. I’m trying to decide what to do.
My middle name is plain, but has a great initial (“J”) and it is also my mom’s middle name, and her mom’s (my grandmother who died before I was born). So for sentimental reasons, and cool initial reasons, I like it.
My last name is very uncommon, always mispronounced, but it is part of my identity. It’s short, rare, always misspelled and mispronounced, but it just feels “like me”. Even when mispronounced! My new last name is pretty common and there is no way to mispronounce it.
So, I was originally thinking of keeping my last name and just having four names, but I’ve read that it can be problematic and a hassle. What do I do?
Edit: I also have been socially using my new last name, and I really do want to have my husband’s last name, so just keeping my name as-is is not an option.