Post # 1
I’m sure this has been discussed before but I’m going to ask anyways 🙂
Got married on Saturday (YAY!!!) I will be changing my name to my DH’s last name. (it’s already facebook official)
I live in Ontario, it takes at least 2 months to actually get your name changed (6-8 weeks for the marriage certificate which you need to do anything, and then another 3-4 weeks for the new DL etc).
I’m wondering what to do about work. Our email addresses are [email protected]. I wouldn’t think about it except that we’re changing the name of the company soon so we’ll be getting new emails. I’m also pretty new in the business (just under 2 years) so people are still getting to know me.
How should I do this? Should I change the signature on my email NOW even though I’m not legally my new last name yet to get people used to the idea that my name is changing? Should I wait and just change it when we change to the new emails? Should I not change it at work?
Help me out here hive!
Post # 2
I would change it now if you eventually want to go by your new name at work.
Post # 3
mgbser: I’ve been flip flopping on this one because I’m in the middle of getting my professional designation and everything but I don’t think it’ll really make a difference ultimately – i just may not change it with the board…i’ll see how arduous that is before I start in on that…but the more I think about it, the more I just want to be Mrs NewLastName, I don’t want to be bothered switching, I’m married and I want people to know I’m married etc.
Post # 4
** will it confuse people to see my signature as ‘FirstName MarriedName’ but then have my email as ‘[email protected]’ until we do the change over/I get a new email address?
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
MsGinkgo: Change it now. At my company it’s a nightmare to get your email changed when you change your name. Another co-worker got married the same day I did and changed her name right away. They botched her email account and she didn’t get emails for a few days then they misspelled her name. I decided just to keep my maiden name email until I change jobs and can start fresh with my married name. For my eamil signature bar I started using my maiden and married name together immediately after my name change was approved by the Bar which only took a few weeks after the wedding.
Post # 6
This worried me a lot to. I’m well-established and can get a lot of things done because people know me. It was suggested that I change my signature block to first name maiden name (soon to be married name). This worked well for another individual I worked with.
So far it seems to be working in that people are noticing. I changed it a couple of weeks before the wedding and it will take me a couple of weeks for my name to actually change and then my email to change. Unfortunately, we no longer have control over our email addresses, so once my name legally changes, my address automatically changes. I am going to start using my married name now in meetings to start the second phase of the transition.
No matter what, I’m going to lose a lot contacts and alot ofstuff used to be able to get done based upon name recognition. So, if you are relatively new, I would recommend changing it as soon as possible! No sense in waiting.
Post # 7
MsGinkgo: You shouldn’t talk to us, you should talk to your IT department :-). They all have different rules and it isn’t necessarily your choice. We got upset thinking we had choices that we didn’t.
Where I work, my email is still my maiden name email. My signature is still my maiden name. My paycheck, timecard, and HR forms are under my married name. The reason? No one bothered to push the paperwork through and I have no idea who to nag. I personally prefer to have my maiden name on emails. Every married women in my office does it and it works for my agency. Where most of my friends work, they all changed it as soon as they changed their name legally in the system. The only exception was a few places changed theirs as soon as they got back from their honeymoon and long before the name change was official.
If I were you, I would see if you could change it now. It will make things easier in the long run.
Post # 8
Pollywog: thankfully I work in a teeny tiny office and it literally took 2 hours from the time I asked to the time it was all done. My old address forwards to my new, my signature is first (maiden) married and I set up an autoreply from my old email saying ‘changed my name, got married, here’s the new one’ (in a much more formal way)/
Post # 9
MsGinkgo: I am so jealous. Words cannot express how jealous I am. I will be stuck with my maiden name for as long as I am here 🙂
Post # 10
MsGinkgo: I would change it now. Either way people will be confused at first when they see the new last name…might as well give them more time to get used to it! I changed my signature before my email got updated….my email was updated this past Monday…and i’m getting a lot of emails saying is this firstname lastname? lol First name has stayed the same but still throws people off. Might as well give them a little extra time to adjust to it.