(Closed) Changing my name.. it’s weird

posted 8 years ago in Names
Post # 3
Member
185 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I hear you. Although everyone has a lot of love for my Fiance they don’t have a whole lot of love for my new last name. It’s important to him that I change it and it doesn’t bother me to lose mine but it will be a little harder get used to his.

Post # 4
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211 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I just finished changing everything last week. I’m happy to be married to him but I’ve been this name for 30+ years. It’s such a strange feeling, sort of bittersweet.

Post # 5
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2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yeah Im not too excited about it but its really important to Fiance so I will do it. The only thing I like is that we will ahve the same last name and feel more like a family

Post # 6
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228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m hyphenating because I couldn’t bear to give up my name!  It will definitely be weird to have Smith tacked on to the end of my name though…

Post # 7
Member
144 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I am a teacher and the thought of my kiddos calling me Mrs. T instead of Ms. H is really weird.  It’s really like getting a new first name for me.  People are going to be talking to me at school and I won’t answer them because I won’t know they are talking to me.

Post # 8
Bee
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

I’m right in that process and I’m totally with you – so weird!

Post # 9
Member
333 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I hyphenated and I’m still having trouble adjusting to the extra two syllables.  Plus I always have to spell it for people, unlike my maiden name.

Post # 11
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191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I know exaclty what you girls are saying. I love my Fiance with all my heart but he is hispanic and has a very hispanic last name. I am not.  It will be quite an adjustment for me to change my name. Honeslty I prefer to hyphanate it but I mentioned it once and he was offended.  I hope I am not wrong for feeling like this.

Post # 12
Member
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I know just what you are saying! I honestly didn’t think it was going to be a big deal. I really didn’t. I kept saying “Sure, I’ll change it, who cares.” Now I’m missing my maiden name. It’s odd.

Post # 13
Member
191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@hyphensmith:how does your Fiance feel about that?

Post # 14
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571 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am getting so frustrated by the name change process!  Honestly, for me, it has been more stressful than planning the wedding– I keep getting mad at my husband because he doesn’t have to deal with the hassles and the waiting in 4 hour long lines at the SSA and getting the run around from everyone from banks to the DMV.  

 

I have also had some spectacular new-name fails: For example, I sent out an E-mail from my old E-mail address to my contacts to say “here is my new e-mail with my married name.”  Except that I definitely wrote my new E-mail address wrong with my maiden name where my married name should have been.  

Post # 15
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Thankfully I didn’t have a lot of problems changing my name.  It’s weird at first but you get used to it.  You aren’t losing yourself, you are just adding to yourself.

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