- 5 months ago
Hi Bees – anyone else been in this boat? I know the “tradition”, if you choose to take his name, is usually to change your name to FIRST, MAIDEN, HIS, where you use your maiden name as your new middle name.
However, I’ve never been fond of my maiden name. It’s always been impossible for everyone to spell and pronounce, doesn’t roll off the tongue easily, and doesn’t really “go” with his last name.
So I know the other idea is to keep your original first and middle name, so it’s FIRST, MIDDLE, HIS. But my middle name is just so plain and my parents picked it in the hospital without much thought, so they could leave. I’ve always thought they could do better and I’d like this opportunity to fix it.
What I would love to do, and not sure if this is going to be too confusing or “out there” for most people, would be to choose a new middle name for myself and use my FI’s last name going forward.
The wrinkle is that all of my cousins on my father’s side are girls, so there will be no one to pass along the last name, if everyone marries and chooses to take their FI’s last name. I’d hate for my dad to be offended, so I’m thinking of using his middle name as my new middle name, to keep the family ties, if this makes sense. It’s not a traditional “male” name, but rather a family name on his side (his mother’s maiden name) that I think is pretty gender neutral.
Any thoughts on this? I’ve never particularly liked my name, but never hated it enough to change it, but view getting married as an opportunity to rechristen myself to something of my own choosing.
Is this just bizarre? Am I crazy? Anyone else been there done that?