Changing my name? Long

posted 5 months ago in Family
Post # 2
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5747 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2016 - Lola's Trailer Park

Its not out there but you need to check the policy in your state. In my state, I wouldn’t be able to just totally change my middle name because I got married unless I went through the courts.

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I don’t have a middle name. It works fine. As long as you don’t change your first name as well as your last, people won’t care/won’t get confused. I don’t know how much middle names are ever used anyways. By all means change it if you don’t like it.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

 As PP said, changing your middle name would be a bigger name change, I think you have to go through the courts for that. 

Here is what I found Googling. 
“Most states recognize an inherent right to change your name for non-fraudulent purposes. If you want to change your last name due to marriage, divorce, or adoption, most states do not require a court. Most states do, however, require a court order to change your middle name. Although the laws of the various states differ on the procedure, certain principles are common to every state. Consult the law of your state for the exact procedure.”

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

Canadian bee here so i don’t know the drill.. but taking your husbands name is MUCH easier than changing your first or middle names, which usually involves lawyers, a lot of paper work and a new birth certificate

yep. new birth certificate to formally change your first or middle name.

My sister did this when she transitioned and it didn’t take TOO long but it wasn’t cheap or easy. I think it can be done but not likely at the same time that you’re changing your last name as it would be an entirely different process.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

You can’t simply change your middle name when you get married. Your options without going to the court is FIRST, MIDDLE, HIS or FIRST, MAIDEN, HIS. Any name that is not in your birth certificate or the marriage license (his last name) must be petitioned through the courts. 

 

Edited to Add: This is a really serious issue. When they issued our marriage license they said if the names were even spelled wrong it would be a lengthy and expensive court thing to fix. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I wanted to keep my middle name and drop my maiden name, but the Social Security office argued with me about what my middle name is.  They insisted it ended in an “e” and I know it’s an “a”.  So I just said, Fine – lemme just put the First name Middle Initial Husband’s Last Name, and they acquiesced. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

You have to go through the court process for that. DH and I are both in the middle of that right now. It costs us $277 each, and we’re able to file our initial form online and then go to court to get it approved. 

Look up your county’s name and “legal name change”.

ETA- If you plan on ever changing your middle name, the time to do it is definitely now! Go through the court process and the judge will sign a piece of paper saying your name is now whatever you want to change it to. Then you can take that name change document and your marriage license to the social security office and drivers license office. That way you only have to file for a new SS card and license one time. Kill two birds with one stone.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

After I got married last summer, I went to the SSA to change my last name to my husband’s, and they asked me if I wanted to keep my middle name the same.  On a whim I decided to add my confirmation name (a Catholic thing — it wasn’t my “real” name as I just picked it randomly when I was 13, it doesn’t appear anywhere on my birth certificate etc) as a second middle name.  So now I legally have two middle names.  They didn’t care at all and it took two seconds.

 

ETA: I didn’t have to pay for the extra name change.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

You’d have to check.  I can’t change my middle name because I feel like it, I’d have to jump through a lot of hoops.  Getting married to change my last name is a completely different story.  I also think you have to pay a lot of money to have it changed without any valid reason.  (just changing your name to change it is not a valid reason).  I am not saying this is correct, but someone told me you have to pay for each change.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Ditto what everyone else has said. Changing your middle name will confuse almost no one except whoever does paperwork because it’s so rarely used and you should have a name you want. So it’s not crazy at all. But it IS much harder and a lot of hoops. So you have to decide if it’s worth it. I’m not sure if it’s jurisdictional but my guess is if you change your last name due to marriage it will become first, middle, new last, and your prior last name will go by the wayside. 

Personally since middle names are so rarely used and yours sounds inoffensive (if boring) of probably let it go myself. But it’s totally up to you obviously. 

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